(Closed) Should I invite co-worker?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should I invite?
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    Oo, that’s tough.  I guess I kind of think that if you’re already inviting some people in your office, and you’re planning on being there with those people for a while, you should probably invite them.  Otherwise, things might be pretty tense and awkward.  I know it’s tough to make guest list decisions!

    Post # 4
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    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    You work with 8 ppl.  You are inviting 6 of them.  I think you need to invite the other two. 

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I really think that you should invite all of them, especially since you have talked about the wedding with one of them.  Just because you invite people doesn’t mean they are going to come, so you might not end up overbooked.

    Post # 6
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    1487 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Fiance is in a similar situation.

    We invited his boss, and 4 out of the 8 people he works with.  We rationalized it by inviting the people who had been there the longest, anyone he hung out with outside of work.

    We never dreamed they’d come, but I sent out Save-The-Date Cards yesterday, and today Fiance tells me they’ve all asked for the time off.

    Oops.

    Post # 7
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    831 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m in the same dilemma! There’s some co-workers I would invite and other I would prefer they didnt’ make an appearance, but I feel like I can’t invite some and leave out others so I’ll be extending invites to ALL of them, unfortunately. Hopefully, they’ll decline and it’ll ease my mind!! hehe

    Post # 8
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    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I agree; if you are inviting 6 and you are already over your limit, you have to invite the remaining 2, which in the grand scheme isn’t so bad – plus, one is inviting you to his so to keep the peace, you have to reciprocate.

    What’s done is done, but I would have had the entire office as possible B list, so that if you couldn’t fit them in, no one would be offended…

    We have the opposite trouble; no issues and FI’s boss and wife now want to include their two kids (one adult, one 4; we don’t want any young kids) and because they’ve hounded us so much, we’ve always counted them in the planning numbers and now they may or may not go.  I don’t understand why folks don’t understand etiqutte, what it means to have reserved seats, and that you can’t waiver regarding such matters when you tell someone you are going.  Had I had the choice, I never would have invited them at all

    Post # 9
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    435 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you should invite the other two.  Hopefully they won’t be able to come:)

    Post # 10
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    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d invite them.  There’s no way the 2 won’t find out.  It’s too small of an environment to risk having an awkward or tense convo about why they were the only ones not invited.  And the one that flirst most likely won’t do that at the wedding (lol) and I’m sure he won’t do it thereafter either.  I mean hello- he watched you be in love and married your husband, there’s no reason to flirt buddy! 

    Post # 11
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    990 posts
    Busy bee

    I agree with Tanya123, you should most definitely invite everyone you work with, it’s only two more people. Besides not everyone you invited will come and who’s to say that the two B-listers will come?

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