(Closed) should I invite coworkers, bosses, etc?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t really think you could invite them and exclude their spouses.  From what I have seen the general consensus is if you invite one coworker you have to invite all – if you invite a married couple you invite both.  It could create a mess for you if you dont.  Just my two cents.  ; )

Post # 4
10 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

This is so funny to read… I’m in long term care AND am dealing with the same issue as you. I’m going to invite the one nurse i’m close with and nix the rest. My wedding is out of town and am not positive that even she will make it. The way I think about it, if i wouldnt be disappointed to not be invited to their wedding… they probably wont have too much of a broken heart if I dont invite them. And… its YOUR day so if YOU dont want them there or dont care either way.. why invite them?  Especially if budget is an issue. If anyone calls me on it I’m just going to say we’re having a small wedding (which is true… only around 200 guests invited) and we have a large family (which is also true) and we werent able to invite everyone that is important to us. There might be hurt feelings but we’re adults… cant hold onto it for that long!

Post # 5
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I second Mindiana Jones – I don’t think you can invite your co-workers without their spouses – I think even if you did, you would have a lot of spouses RSVP and show up, just assuming they were invited with their wives/husbands.  

There was a girl I worked with a few years back that had a wedding and invited 3/4 of her co-workers.  I did not get an invite, and it felt awkward.  Yes,  I understand that weddings are expensive (especially now that I am planning one) but for the few days leading up to and after the wedding, it was really weird at work to hear so many people talking about an event that I was not invited to.  It seemed like a work-social thing, and I was not part of the “in crowd.”  Years later, I really don’t care, but at the time, it bugged me. I’d say if you were going to invite any co-workers, I would only invite very few (like a close work-friend or two).  Or you can just use the ‘ole “I’d love to invite all of you, but we are really just having a really small family affair”  

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