Post # 1
I work in longterm care (nursing home). i have worked here for almost 7 years, since I was 18. I am closer to some of my co-workers than i am others. I don’t hang out with any of them outside of work mainly because I work 1 hour from home and I work opposite shifts than some of them. I do talk to a couple of them on the phone on a regular basis. There are some that I have worked with for the past 7 years. I am undecided whom to invite. I know they expect an open invitation but I cannot afford it. I am considering inviting the nurses that work on my shift, the ones I talk to on the phone, and maybe my bosses.
I also am considering only inviting the coworkers and not their husbands. It just depends on how many coworkers I invite.
I also have a few of my patients that want to come to my wedding. Which I would be more than excited about having them. but then I would have to invite their daughter or someone to bring them. besides my wedding is at 7pm and most of them are in bed by then. lol.
Should I invite coworkers that I know would be offended if I invited some and not them? I would be able to invite more coworkers if I don’t invite spouses.
I just need some insight as to what to do.
Post # 3
I don’t really think you could invite them and exclude their spouses. From what I have seen the general consensus is if you invite one coworker you have to invite all – if you invite a married couple you invite both. It could create a mess for you if you dont. Just my two cents. ; )
Post # 4
This is so funny to read… I’m in long term care AND am dealing with the same issue as you. I’m going to invite the one nurse i’m close with and nix the rest. My wedding is out of town and am not positive that even she will make it. The way I think about it, if i wouldnt be disappointed to not be invited to their wedding… they probably wont have too much of a broken heart if I dont invite them. And… its YOUR day so if YOU dont want them there or dont care either way.. why invite them? Especially if budget is an issue. If anyone calls me on it I’m just going to say we’re having a small wedding (which is true… only around 200 guests invited) and we have a large family (which is also true) and we werent able to invite everyone that is important to us. There might be hurt feelings but we’re adults… cant hold onto it for that long!
Post # 5
I second Mindiana Jones – I don’t think you can invite your co-workers without their spouses – I think even if you did, you would have a lot of spouses RSVP and show up, just assuming they were invited with their wives/husbands.
There was a girl I worked with a few years back that had a wedding and invited 3/4 of her co-workers. I did not get an invite, and it felt awkward. Yes, I understand that weddings are expensive (especially now that I am planning one) but for the few days leading up to and after the wedding, it was really weird at work to hear so many people talking about an event that I was not invited to. It seemed like a work-social thing, and I was not part of the “in crowd.” Years later, I really don’t care, but at the time, it bugged me. I’d say if you were going to invite any co-workers, I would only invite very few (like a close work-friend or two). Or you can just use the ‘ole “I’d love to invite all of you, but we are really just having a really small family affair”