- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So I’m just at the beginning stages of wedding planning and I’ve started to try to put together a guest list. I’ve run across a dilemma. I went to college about 5 years ago and was a part of a large group of friends…about 15 people in all. While in college, we were all very close. But of course, after college was over people moved all over the country. We all see each other at weddings, or other get-togethers a few times a year and use facebook to stay connected too. But I’ve found that over the years, I don’t really prefer the company of a few people in this group anymore. So my question is, do I invite everyone because they were part of “the group” or do I only invite the people I really want there? I’m struggling with this, because some of the people I’d rather not invite are kind of seen as “the life of the party” and have been more of a focal point in the group. Everyone would notice and wonder why they weren’t there, and if they found out these people weren’t invited, I don’t want people to be talking about what a mean bride I am for not inviting everyone.
On a side note, one of these people who I don’t care to invite did not invite me to their wedding, while everyone else in the group WAS invited. I felt very slighted, and it actually still stings (especially considering I sent them a wedding gift anyway because I DID care about their marriage, and they never sent me a thank you or even acknowledged the gift at all). Part of me says, extend the olive branch and invite them anyway, and another part of me says “why would I want to invite someone who didn’t care to have me at their wedding”? Anyway, I realize this is getting long. What would you bees do? I’m confused.