(Closed) Should I invite her?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite her?
    Yes : (0 votes)
    No : (47 votes)
    100 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    If everyone knows she doesn’t like you, I don’t think anyone will think it odd that you wouldn’t invite her. And it doesn’t sound like you owe her anything in terms of friendship.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    No way. It’s hard enough to find money enough to look after the people that DO want to be there! Find your backbone, chick, don’t even give this girl a second thought.

    Post # 6
    Member
    468 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’d say no. Regardless of the fact that you have friends in common, you mentioned that she never liked you & didn’t hide that from others. why, then should she be invited to one of your most special and intimate events?

    If you are anything like the majority of us on this website, you have a budget and a maximum number of guests you can accommodate. Do you really want to expend one place at your wedding for this acquaintance who doesn’t like you?

    I can totally understand not wanting to have any issues with other friends from your group, and realistically, you shouldn’t. If they are aware that she doesn’t like you, then they most likely do not expect her to be invited.

    Search your heart and do what will make you feel happy. Good luck!

     

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    7053 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Pay good money for a frenemy to wine and dine on your big day?

    Money’s tight, we’re in a recession.  Just say no to the frenemy.  

    Post # 9
    Member
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Well do you actually see her on a regular basis?

    Post # 10
    Member
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Glad to hear it on the backbone! I know the guest list is the biggest pain…

    Post # 13
    Member
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Hahaha yeah no doubts on the poll there anyway!

    Post # 14
    Member
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    why would you want someone who doesn’t like you at your wedding? i don’t think you should invite her, if you did and she came, what if she created drama at your wedding? skip the drama at your wedding and leave her off the invite list…

    Post # 15
    Bee
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    I said no but I know how much harder that is to do in reality – in this situation, it sounds like she doesn’t deserve to be there so I am sticking with a big ol’ no!

    Post # 16
    Member
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted No! But make sure you also just say No to any drama she tries to inflict on you. If she makes a stink about it, don’t take the bait and bring up all the b-word-y stuff she’s done. If she’s a drama queen, she’ll just feed on it and try to draw up sides to alienate your mutual friends from you– she’ll want to pull as much attention away from your big day as she can. Just say you wish you could invite everyone or some polite BS like that, but that you could only invite a certain number of people, and that you wish everyone well, anyway. Kill her with kindness. But don’t give in and invite her– what if she tries to upstage you or something at your own wedding? Don’t give her the chance.

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