(Closed) Should I Invite Her? (Long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

How old is your sister now? Is she an adult?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@futuremrsndl:  Point blank, don’t invite her.  If someone asks, just say that you aren’t close and just want people you are close with there.  Your step mom might try to get in the way of your sister, just pray that doesn’t happen.  

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@futuremrsndl:  You said your step-sister is really excited right?  I think her mom wont deny her this.  Besides, 13 year olds can be quite dramatic so she may try.  Why not have your other sister call/text/fb her telling her she is invited and that she will pick your youngest sister at her house without your not so nice stepmom having to do anything. becuase it sounds like she will purposely go out of her way to avoid you.  If an invite gets mailed she may never see it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t invite your step mom. Period. I would tell her she isn’t invited point blank. 

Is there anyway your Grandmother could pick your halfsister up? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with the pp dont invite your stepmom.  Inviting just your sister with a call or in person will be fine. However make sure you have someone on the lookout the day of your wedding just in case your stepmom tries to show up and make a scene.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think this is one of those occassions where being the bigger person will pay off.  I too have major family issues, and sometimes, being the adult in a child/adult relationship make you shine. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I agree that you should not invite your step-mom.  She would be a negative presence on a special day, when you are likely to be missing your dad.  Could your step-sis be your grandmother’s plus one, so you don’t have to send an invite to her at your step-mom’s house?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

As a mother, I wouldnt let my 13 year old go without me, so my opinion is you invite both or none.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t invite her, simple. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yikes, what a crappy situation.  However, if you really want a relationship with your step-sister, I think you have to bite the bullet and invite your step-mom.  I completely understand why you don’t want to, but do you really think that your step-mom will let you have a relationship with her daughter when you clearly don’t like her?  Based on what you’ve said I’d be willing to bet she wouldn’t let your sister go to either event and would then start bad-mouthing you. 

 Also, 1000 posts!  WOOT!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@futuremrsndl:  Don’t invite her. She doesn’t deserve an invite. Invite your step-sister and maybe ask your sister to go pick her up and keep an eye on her at the wedding.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I wouldn’t invite her. If anyone on your dad’s side asks tell them what she called your mother at your dad’s funeral and that she embarrassed your grandmother. If they still think you should invite her tell them it’s your shower and you don’t feel comfortable around her.

Also I’m very sorry for the loss of your father.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@futuremrsndl:  Wow she sounds like an evil step-mother, so evil that I’d really think about having a Cinderella themed wedding lol.  Seriously though, if you’re not close, just don’t invite her.  Best of luck!

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