(Closed) Should I invite her? Please vote

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I invite this person?
    Yes, invite her - sounds like it will create drama if you don't. : (5 votes)
    4 %
    No, it's your wedding; invite the people that really matter. : (81 votes)
    70 %
    Yes, invite her but hope like heck she says no. : (6 votes)
    5 %
    Invite her but only after you know you've received a bunch of "NO" rsvp cards. : (24 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    She’s Not even nice to you? Don’t invite her! Who cares if she is part of the group. ” Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

    Post # 4
    Member
    7206 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you don’t hang out with her alone and only as part of the group then don’t invite her. If her best friend wants to see her she can go visit.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @queencharlotte04:  I say EHHH! Don’t invite her. It’s YOUR wedding! You said you would rather invite someone else, definitely invite who you want and DON’T invite who you do not want.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @queencharlotte04:  Based on what you’ve said here, it sounds like she’d just be invited out of obligation.  If that’s the case, she shouldn’t be invited, especially considering you may be forced to leave someone else out (that you’d rather have there, no less).  I understand not wanting to cause drama, but you said it yourself: she is not that important to me and she’s not very nice to me.  

    Post # 8
    Member
    7760 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @queencharlotte04:  Absolutely not! The members of your college “group” are individuals and can function without her. If members of the “group” ask why she’s not invited, simply tell the truth: “We’ve never been especially close, and it’s a small wedding”.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2122 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

    @paula1248:  Yes, I’m in the same situation and I’ll be pulling that line.

    If she’s not nice to you and she’s only there because you felt obliged you won’t like looking at the wedding photos she’s in. Don’t invite her. As another pp said if said group of friends want to hang out they can meet up on their own. If they only meet up at weddings that’s their problem not yours.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1770 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @queencharlotte04:  will there be negative ramifications for you from the group if she is excluded? ie will you be talked about negatively, ostracized, not invited to someone elses wedding later etc…..

    Post # 11
    Member
    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    If somebody asks, just say you’re not particularly close to her, and since you are having a small wedding, you’re only inviting people you ARE close to.

    Post # 12
    Member
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @hollyberry4:  hahaha dang right aint nobody got time for that!

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I said hope like heck she won’t come. You said she doesn’t live near you and she’s not nice to you. Maybe she won’t make it in but at least you don’t look sus not inviting her.

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