Should I invite HER to SO's surprise "housewarming" party?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

NO…i would not invite this woman.

Post # 32
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757 posts
Busy bee

Ew. No I would not invite her. Like you said it’d be big enough he might not even notice and that way your mind is at ease. If he or she said anything I’d reply ‘She isn’t supportive of our relationship why would she be supportive of our home together?’ 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I wouldn’t. Personally, if that were me, I’d do nothing to encourage or help mend their friendship. Sounds like it’s on it’s way out and that’s for the best since this lady seems nutty and will only cause issues for you.

Post # 36
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Honey Beekeeper

First, I wouldn’t make it about the house if this party is not at home. Just as it’s a surprise for your SO, the incentive for the gathering can be a surprise once people are there. Otherwise, it’s a gift grab.

Second, there’s no way a woman who is disrespectful to your relationship belongs on your guest list. 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee

No x infinity don’t invite her. She seems to have an unhealthy obsession with your SO and my thought is it just gets reignited every time she sees him. She’s not a best friend of his and sometimes in life things just run its course. I think her relationship with him is one of those things. Don’t help it hang on. Also, you don’t like her for valid reasons and that’s ok. No need to try to act otherwise.

Post # 40
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Helper bee

Would totally invite her to shove it in her face. I like to keep my friends close and my enemies closer. Let her see my/our life close up and let that sear in her mind. All the while I look like a saint for taking the “high ground”. I’m petty like that.

Post # 42
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Helper bee

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gagal2016 :  I would never invite her. Hell no. And taking into account the way she acts – she looks like she is interested in your SO. Who cares about being a better person if that takes a toll on your relationship. Think about yourself first. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’d skip inviting her.

She sounds like a dramalama imo and those types don’t change. Trust me.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Wtf no, do not invite her.

Why is he still wanting a friendship with this person who has caused problems? He seems too attached to this person who is obviously creating problems even after continuously being told to stop. He needs to step up and handle this.

Also why is a friend telling you to be the bigger person in this scenario? From what I’m reading it’s not like you are causing problems for his friend and she’s retaliating…she’s just being awful, so I don’t think you need to extend any courtesy to her.

Post # 44
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Sugar bee

I don’t think you should invite her.

She hasn’t shown any evidence that she’s willing to be in his life in a civil way. I doubt she will be missed since they only see each other a couple of times a year anyway.

That’s sad for your husband that he lost a friend, but it doesn’t seem like she ever wanted to just be friends anyway. Getting from that place to a place of TRUE platonic friendship is damned near impossible from what I’ve seen. Particularly when one person is so willing to overtly fight for it to be more than strictly platonic. 

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper

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gagal2016 :  That’s a big fat NOPE from me. I’m fine extending an olive branch for FRIENDships but this lady wants a relationship with him. And he’s with you. She doesn’t respect boundaries and that isn’t a friend that’s toxic. Nopedy nope nope. 

30-40 messages?! Thats bordering on if not already obsessive. Double hell no. Don’t do it. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by  sweatergal007.
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