Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married after college, and I was thinking about the guestlist when I realized there would be a problem with one of my uncles and his wife.
My uncle is my mother’s oldest brother and I love him dearly, as well as both of his daughters. He and their mother divorced when my cousins and I were very young, so she isn’t important. However, he recently married, and to be frank, I don’t like his wife.
They dated in high school, then didn’t talk for about 30 years. My uncle divorced his second wife and they were talking again. They entered into a relationship soon after, while she was still married. Her children were involved. This disgusted me on many levels and I never approved of her attitude. Everyone in my family except my uncle had a problem with it, but then she divorced her husband and married my uncle.
I want to invite him, but I don’t want to invite her. Help?
Post # 3
I totally get that you don’t like her, but is she really going to wreck anything at your wedding? If you really think she would cause a scene or do something offensive, then you could talk to your uncle about why you’re not inviting her and still invite him.
However, if you just don’t like her but don’t think she’ll stir trouble up at the ceremony, I think you kind of have to invite her just because your uncle has chosen her as his wife. How would you feel if your fiance was invited to an event after you are married and you weren’t? Married couples kind of go together in situations like this, unfortunately. :/
Post # 4
Unfortunately, I think you have to invite her. She’s technically family now, no matter how much anyone agrees with “how.” It’s just like your mom not wanting your step-mom there or something.
Besides, your wedding sounds pretty far off (boyfriend, after college) so maybe things will change by then. Nothing to sweat over just yet.
Post # 5
As long as she hasn’t done anything to offend you, you have no “real reason” not to invite your Uncle’s “new” Wife.
I know it sucks, but that’s what has to happen sometimes.
Either way, if you don’t invite the wife. You’ll probably upset your Uncle too.