(Closed) Should I invite my bosses?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite my bosses?
    Invite all 4 : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Invite just bosses, not the office manager : (3 votes)
    11 %
    Dont invite any of them : (20 votes)
    71 %
    Other, explain below : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    8 extra people is a lot! i work for a small company, too and i think in those circumstances it’s all or nothing. i’d say invite just your close friend and leave it at that. especially because it sounds like you don’t really want the bosses there. if there was ever a question later on you’d be telling the truth in that you couldn’t have everyone there, so you didn’t want to pick & choose. no one will be hurt that way.

    Post # 4
    Member
    649 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I invited my whole dept.  That’s an extra 18 people with their spouses/dates, but they aren’t all coming.  I didn’t want to pick and choose and offend anyone so I invited the whole lot.  One of the guys hasn’t even worked here for a year yet, but I hav ebeen here for over 7 years and am close with my bosses and other in my dept. 

    Neither of my bosses able to make it.  I am getting married on NYE so it’s a tough night to get a sitter etc.  But all of the girls I am close with are coming!

    I voted invite the 3 bosses but not the office manager.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    16215 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t invite your bosses if you don’t have a super close relationship. I invited my previous boss to my wedding because we had a close friendship in addition to our professional relationship. However, I would not invite my current boss, because we our relationship strictly professional.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I work in a small company too and there are only 4 people in my department including me. I thought I HAD to invite them at first, but after reading a few of these topics on wedding bee I realized I didn’t HAVE to invite anyone! So I ended up not inviting anyone. I know my boss took it personally, but he’s a drama queen so that’s a whole different story. In the end I did what was right for me.

    Post # 7
    Member
    26 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Do you have a bulletin board at work that you could put your wedding invitation up at? That’s what I’m doing at my sorority. A general, vague invitation. Those who want to come will. Those who don’t won’t even pay attention to it. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’m a volunteer for a thrift store in my hometown. Depending on the situation once Fiance and I have set a date, made a final decision on venue, etc., I might invite my boss and her boyfriend since they both have connections with my family (mostly my sister though; the boyfriend used to be roommates with my sister’s boyfriend).  But at this point, I don’t exactly know yet who I will be inviting beyond my immediate family, niece and nephew, niece’s father (sister’s boyfriend; nephew’s father, a.k.a. sister’s ex-husband, will not be invited since well, he’s my sister’s ex-husband), both sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and the wife of one cousin that got married back in July.

    Maybe what I’ll do is maybe invite some people who do not make the cut for the ceremony guest list to the reception.

    Post # 9
    Member
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Is it rude to welcome people from work to come and watch the ceremony but not actually invite them to the reception? I want to keep numbers down as much as possible so if I invited my boss I would have to invite the whole team too (10 people) but I can’t afford to invite them all. At least putting it out there that they are welcome to come and watch the ceremony is better than nothing right? And I am sure they would understand as i don’t see them outside of work or anything.

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