(Closed) Should I invite my grandmother to my wedding or not.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Buttercup014:  She sounds like a real peach! clearly that side of the family have issues that go wayyy beyond you, and personally, I wouldn’t invite her to my wedding. If ever there is a time to let go of bad relationships- now would be it. If she dares open her foul mouth to say anything you can just tell her about all of the times you were not invited to any of her events and tell her how at this point you think its for the best.

Nothing good will come out of continuing a relationship with her. Shes a toxic person that gets satisfaction out of hurting others. Nothing you attempt to do will ever fix her. Shes a broken person.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MissJulianna.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

You don’t get to choose your family, unfortunately. But, they will expect to be included. I think you should invite her and treat her equal to your other grandmother. Its not worth causing issues over.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

It sounds like a relationship not worth having. That is so sad! So rare with grandparents. I would skip the drama and not invite her. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

What a nasty old wretch. She’s been either absent or deliberately malicious to you for most of your life. She doesn’t get to speak to you, much less get an invitation to your wedding, and if that chaps her ass she can complain to her ain’t-shit son.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Buttercup014:  I wouldn’t invite her. She will cause problems regardless of what you do. So you might as well enjoy your day and not have her taint what should be a happy memory. There’s no point in keeping toxic people in your life. She didn’t invite you to her wedding. You owe her nothing. What’s the point in trying to fake a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about you?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I’m a pretty firm believer that you have the right to have people at your wedding that you want to celebrate with, and nothing more. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I also called my Dad’s mom Oma so my immediate reaction before I read everything was of course you should invite her, she’s your Oma! By the time I got to the point where you said she got married and didn’t invite or tell you it’s obvious to me that she doesn’t deserve to be invited. If she get’s upset about it then just point out that you weren’t invited to hers so it’s only fair. She obviously no longer wants to be a part of your life.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Tuscany Falls Banquet Hall

It is your day so do what will make you happy. Not what will make her happy. If she is going to cause issues by being there, then do not invite her. It sounds like she has proven time after time that she did not care if you were there for special life events so why should you care. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

No, I would not invite her. If my grandma wasn’t an only child, I would think your grandma was that bitch’s sister. I’ve lost both of my parents and I am my dad’s parents ONLY grandchild (I’m an only child and so was my dad). I have not talked to either one of my dad’s parents (they’ve been divorced like 40 years) since the day we buried him, which was May 2008. I had just turned 16 at the time so they have missed a lot. And it’s their fault. My grandma even watched me get into a wreck and walked circles around me while the cops and wrecker were there, but never once asked if I was okay. With horrible, toxic people like this, you just have to say screw it, and don’t give a shit about including them. I would defintely cut your losses and quit trying to talk to her, much less invite her to your wedding. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I’m not inviting my grandmother. Long story short: she’s entitled, rude, and makes everything about her. My parents recently had a falling out with her and DO NOT want to see her ever. So she’s not coming to my wedding, I want nothing but happiness at my wedding. No family bitterness allowed.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Nope, granny needs to stay home.  And frankly, I’d stop trying with that side of the family completely.

My dad is a low-life scum bag and I hate him.  I haven’t seen him since I was 15 – at my grandmother’s funeral.  My grandmother died from cancer – that I had no idea she even had.  My dad caused his entire family to exile my sister and I because of the divorce.  When I first started reading your post I was going to go on about how my grandma is gone…cherish the time.. don’t let your relationship with your dad interfere.. but Oma seems to be the issue here.  

 

Would you want to risk her ruining your day?  Evidentally she already feels ill towards you so it’s not like hurting her feelings should make you upset.  She doesn’t seem to care about your feelings..

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Buttercup014:  dont invite her. Now would be the time to cut out any bad ties. 

And if she asks why wasnt she invited, you give her the same response she gave you, that it was your day and you didnt want her to cause issues. Give her a taste of her own medicine.

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