Should I invite my MIL's friend to my ultra private destination wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I invite my MIL's friend or should I put my foot down?
    Yes invite her friend. : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Put your foot down and do not invite her friend. : (47 votes)
    94 %
  • Post # 2
    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    If you were invited to her friend’s son’s wedding then obviously it was not very private. Your wedding is going to be smaller and private, that’s all the reasoning you need to not invite her friend. If she is that bad though I wouldn’t be surprised if she brings the friend along anyways!

    Post # 3
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    No pay, no say.

    Even if you were invited to the friend’s son’s wedding, this does not mean you are to offer an extended invitation to your own wedding for her. Put your foot down and have your fiance stand up to his mother since she is clearly going after you about this. Just keep saying “no”, there is nothing she can do about it. In all honesty though, would your MIL’s friend even want to go to a destination wedding for a non-family member? 

    Post # 4
    1713 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    No I don’t think you’re wrong but I would let my fiance address his mother directly.  

    Post # 8
    2980 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014


    SummerBride621:  Stop telling her you will discuss.  That leaves the door open.  Say no.  “FI has told you no, and I agree with him.” Slam the door shut. 

    Post # 9
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    SummerBride621:  Good for your fiance! Yeah at this point continue saying no or just ignore MIL. If my hunches are correct, I really doubt a woman who doesn’t know the couple so well will want to spend so much money to travel (and alone, I am assuming). 

    Post # 11
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Maybe it’s just your MIL’s personality to be so persistent, but do you think she maybe verbally invited her friend and is trying to avoid having to take back the invite?

    Anyways, that thought just popped into my head when I read your post, but I definitely think you should NOT invite the friend. Stick to your guns!

    Post # 12
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    SummerBride621:  You didn’t mention whether or not there is a FIL in the picture. Maybe your MIL is looking for someone to travel with and hang out with? Even if that is the case, it doesn’t excuse her behavior, but it might help you understand her perspective. 

    Post # 14
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Stand your ground. There is no reason for your MILs friend to be invited to your intimate day. End of story. 

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