- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Let me give you some info about my Mother.
She is the….say-whatever-i-want, act-17-again, promiscuous, have-no-responsibilities, depressed, talk-about-the-most-inappropriate-stuff-kind-of-nuts.
I know, i know, she’s my mother and I will always love her. I just don’t know if I can allow her to be around my SO’s family and our friends. She doesn’t think before she speaks and I have always been the “parent” in our relationship.
I am so terribly afraid that she will make a huge scene at our wedding and I will wind up babysitting her the entire time. I will be so nervous because I will be afraid she will start screaming while I’m at the alter or getting wasted at the reception.
When I was in HS, she came to my bball game and sat right behind the bleachers DRUNK! Acting belligerent and embarrassing me in front of everyone. I couldn’t even imagine at the reception….
I have not had a good relationship with my mother since I moved out at 14. I still buy her presents, call anonymously on holidays, I won’t give her my phone number because I had drug dealers to debt collectors calling, and I refuse to give her my address. Regardless, I still love her and she has cancer and I feel sorry for her.
I remember when I was in HS, she started telling everyone that I was in the children’s hospital for cancer and went around asking people for money, for pain pills. ((Elevator is not going up mom…))
BUT deep down I know she will crash (lol) the wedding.
WHAT TO DO? I wish she could be a part of it because it would make her feel so love and so happy, I just don’t know if it’s worth the chance.
Also, she’s has and maybe still participates in consuming the majority of her prescriptions pain pills in a few days, not to mention still stealing. What’s so sad is that I’m a police officer and the majority of people at the wedding will be our friends, other police officers, and I have a ex-con for a mother :/ ahhh!!!!!
I hardly have any family, father is dead, don’t speak to my relatives, and I won’t have anyone family (besides my two brothers) sitting on the bride’s side… What to do?