(Closed) Should I invite my parents friends?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1103 posts
Bumble bee

If you don’t have room, you don’t have room. It’s really nice they want to come and celebrate your day, but I’m sure if they are regular decent people they will understand, like your parents. Tell your parents that you have a small venue and you won’t be able to invite everyone, and they can pass the message on. If they are all friends of your parents it might be nice for your parents to host a separate gathering a month or two after your wedding to celebrate with their friends. Some of my mother’s siblings who weren’t invited to our wedding for the same reason did this for us and it was lovely.

Post # 4
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

no, you shouldn’t invite them if you dont have room. just have your parents (or someone) spread the word telling people that your wedding will be much smaller than your sisters.

Post # 6
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you are close to them and want them there no matter what, then absolutely invite them. If you are doing it out of obligation to make your parents happy then leave them off the list. Your guestlist is supposed to be those who are nearest and dearest to you, not someone else. Your parents can invite them to other parties that you are not hosting or invvolved with any other time.

Post # 7
17 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m sure they’ll be thrilled to not be invited to both. Going to weddings are expensive!

Just get your parents to tell them that you picked the venue before putting your guest list together and don’t have room for as many people. I think that’d be fine.

I also totally agree with Selene221 🙂

Post # 8
875 posts
Busy bee

I would try to invite them if you can.  I live in a small town, and many of my parents friends have known me since my birth.  They have celebrated my birthdays, graduations, and been involved in my life ever since I could remember.  So they are a natural part of my invitation list.  Of course, their children and grandchildren are on the list too.  (Seriously, I’m not so worried about the plus one factor as much as the cut off line…  We have dear friends that we invite to annual events at our house that we literally invite two brothers, their wives, children, and now grandchildren, and now their third brother’s wife’s parents are our next door neighbors, and one of the daughter-in-laws (who is my dear friend)…  Her brother is married to my mom’s best friend’s daughter  who is more like a cousin than just a friend.  I actually know their entire family, and could end up with a multiple family reunion event rather than just an our family gathering. 

Post # 9
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Don’t worry about it. People will understand. What’s important is that your parents seem to understand and will be able to let their friends know the situation.


Post # 10
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

it is definitely your day so who you want there is most important! If they want to celebrate with you and it means that much to them, you can have a smaller cookout celebration or something with them.  Im definitely not a fan of inviting people for the sake of inviting even if they are your parents friends…

Post # 11
52 posts
Worker bee

I wouldn’t worry about it.  I don’t think parents’ friends expect to get invited, and I’m sure they will understand.

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