- 9 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
To start – I’m sorry this is so long! But I have to give a little background and context to make this issue understandable..
A few days ago my Dad asked if he could invite anyone to the wedding besides his girlfriend. I told him that I didn’t want anyone at the wedding who I didn’t know (besides one or two of my fiance’s family members, who of course are invited). After all, my fiance and I are paying for pretty much the whole wedding, and I want it to reflect our friends and family! I do feel bad, however, because since my parents got divorced, my father has ostracized himself from all of our family friends. So the 6 couples who have been in my life since I was really young are now mostly my Mom’s friends and they all hate my Dad. (Long story … but they’re not necessarily wrong.) So my Dad will only really have his girlfriend there, though he does make friends easily enough.
Anyway, so my Dad says: "Can I invite my brother."
Now here is the issue: My father’s brother is his twin. I haven’t seen him in almost 20 years because when my Grandpa died, my Dad’s brother sued my father over the will. My Dad wanted to settle, offered the brother a check and said: "If you take this, know that you will never be part of my life again." The brother took the check. Now, almost 20 years later, apparently my father and his brother are on friendlier terms again. Which is great for him…. butI haven’t seen the Uncle in 20 years.
Do I really have to invite him?