(Closed) Should I invite OOT female relatives to wedding shower?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I dont know the rules behind it, but I did just so they dont feel left out or forgotten about. 

Post # 4
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I don’t have *any* local family members, so my bridal shower will be almost entirely comprised of friends (and FI’s mom and sister).  I am inviting only the two female family members I feel the very closest to: my mom and my grandpa’s wife.  I highly doubt my grandpa’s wife will make it, but I want her to feel included.  I’m the only female grandchild (for a few more months, at least – my aunt is preggers!), so it’s a bit of a special occasion.  I only invited her because she’s the only one who has the means, I think, to actually drop everything and fly out here if she wants to.  I’m almost positive she won’t, but it would be a possibility for her.  It wouldn’t be for anyone else, and I didn’t want them to feel like I was getting gift-grabby.

Post # 5
1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would tell them about it and invite them but not stress they they have to come.

Post # 6
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My biggest regret last time around (besides who I married) was hurting peoples feelings by not inviting them to my shower. I didn’t think they would come because it was a minimum of a 6 hour drive and for many a 12 hour drive. They felt like I didn’t value them and that I had no right to decide for them whether or not they could make it. I just didn’t want to place an additional burden on them or come off as greedy. But alas I did damage some relationships by not inviting them. It turns out some of them had planned to come and were hurt by the lack of invitation. It has taken me five years to rebuild some relationships. 🙁

Lesson I learned- invite everyone, never assume anything!

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