Post # 1
So, this didn’t even occur to me until recently. I have been working for a small Software Company since January. I was already engaged for six months at that point, but somehow, the wedding came up during the interview, so they knew I was getting married since before they hired me.
I wasn’t planning on inviting any coworkers at all, but since I intend to work for this company for a long time, I’m reconsidering. There are about 20 employees, most of which (except for three) are on the West Coast. The President of my company, who hired me, is bi-coastal. He works three weeks in L.A. and one week in NYC every month, where I am.
He met Fiance recently when he wanted to have an East Coast meet up with spouses and he invited my Fiance. They got along great and my President is really a nice guy.
What if he’s in town around the time I’m getting married? What if he thinks he will be invited? What if inviting him makes him feel awkward? If I invite him, do I have to invite my direct supervisor, who is here in NYC? What about the rest of the company?
Do you think it’s all or nothing? If I invite him, I have to invite everyone, since it’s a small company? Do you think other coworkers would understand if I only invited the President of the Company I work for?
UGHHHH what to do?!
Post # 3
I would invite him and any other employees that are local. I struggled with whether or not to invite coworkers, but I think my boss would be pretty offended if he weren’t invited. So, I invited pretty much the 12 or so coworkers that I interact with on a daily basis, including my boss and my boss’s boss (the company’s CFO).
Post # 4
Don’t invite him if you don’t want to. I feel if you invite him, then you will need to invite the rest of the local co-workers.
Post # 5
If you have room for him, and for any other employees who are local, I’d invite them. They’ll really appreciate the invite.
Post # 6
Yeah, this sounds about right. 🙂 Thank you!
Post # 7
I love my coworkers but I didn’t invite any. I keep my work life and personal life seperate for the most part but mostly because I work with a lot of people and couldn’t invite all so thought non was nicer then a few. If you are close with him then sure, but don’t do it out of obligation alone. And I def wouldn’t if you don’t feel 100% comfortable and yourself around him. Sometimes people are on edge around their boss’s and you don’t want to feel any of that on your wedding day.
Post # 8
I think you should do what you’re comfortable with. I work in a very small office, I’m inviting the owner and the paralegal here. I’m not inviting the receptionist, but he’s new and I don’t know him terrribly well. We’re inviting the owners of my FI’s job as well, but we’ve known them forever.