Post # 1
I’m getting married in August.
In October I started a running club and have become friends with a group of girls. We meet sometimes for drinks and night outs. I went to one of the girl’s birthday party in Jan, they came for my birthday last week and last night I went for dinner with some of them.
They ask me a lot about the wedding (I don’t think they’re fishing for an invite. Just because they’re interested).
So, my dilemma is…..do I invite them?
Post # 2
worriedbeehere11 : If you want to invite them then it sounds like it would be appropriate. It sounds like your friendship with them is new but growing and this would be a chance to further grow it. If you dont want to then you certainly don’t have to.
Post # 3
I’d invite them. It sounds as though you’ve got a pretty good friendship developing and the great thing about making friends as an adult (especially when you meet doing shared interest activities) is they tend to be lasting friendships. I think if you didn’t invite them by the time your wedding rolled around and you’re even better friends you’d be bummed you didn’t.
Post # 4
If there’s room in the guest list/in your budget I say yes! I wouldn’t put a ton of pressure on yourself about it though. They will be your friends regardless of an invite or not. They surely understand given the newness of these friendships!
Post # 5
I would put them on a maybe/back up list and see how things go. You’ve known them for like 5 minutes- it’s pretty easy for people to still be presenting their “representative” at this point. If there is space in your budget and guest list, I would reassess in a couple/few months when it’s closer to the wedding.
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to have known someone for decades to invite them to your wedding. If you have what you feel is a good and solid friendship then why not?! As others have said, it can also help solidify the friendship more so in my opinion you have nothing to lose.
Post # 7
Yes, if you can afford to with their plus ones or as couples, why not . As a pp said, if your friendships deepen and you haven’t asked them, then that would be a shame. Anyway you have plenty of time yet .
Post # 8
@worriedbeehere11 I’m part of a dinner club for the past 1.5 years, and the hosts had the same question so far as I can tell, they had known some members a lot longer and had invited them but they were not sure about the rest of the group. They ended up inviting Fiance and I in the last month before the Sept wedding. We could tell we didn’t get the official invite (had seen the paper one at someone’s house) but we got the evite and online RSVP details.
We weren’t offended because our friendship was still growing, and as adults late 20s/30s we were already flattered to be included. We ended up accepting and all had a wonderful time together at a camp they had rented. I’m glad they invited us last minute and we are in turn inviting them to our June wedding as well!
I think you should invite them if you want to, and let them accept or decline based on how they feel or if they are available. I understand you might feel like you’re pressuring them, but people really don’t do what they don’t want to, they find an excuse.
Post # 9
You may want to wait another month or two, as there is still plenty of time, but if your friendship keeps progressing then I would say definitely invite them if you want to and have room in the budget! My fiance and I became friends with another couple last January, and they got married that September 1st. Our friendship progressed throughout the year and they ended up inviting us to their wedding. Unfortunately we already had plans to take off a month of work that summer for other events and travel, so we weren’t able to take more time off and afford flights for their out of state wedding, but they weren’t offended that we couldn’t attend and it meant a lot to us to recieve the invitation. It definitely felt like it solidified our friendship more, and now I’m thrilled to have them at our own wedding this September 😊 so I would say go for it!