(Closed) Should I invite these relatives to shower?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: You should invite...
    Your friends : (14 votes)
    16 %
    Your out-of-town friends : (12 votes)
    13 %
    Your local aunt who you are close to : (13 votes)
    14 %
    Your local grandmother who lives with close aunt, is over 90 years old and disabled : (11 votes)
    12 %
    Your local cousin's girlfriend who you are not close to, her daughter is flowergirl, lives with aunt : (12 votes)
    13 %
    Your out-of-town aunt & cousin who you are not close to (sister/neice to local aunt) : (7 votes)
    8 %
    Your alcoholic mother, who you haven't seen in person for 4 years : (5 votes)
    6 %
    Your out-of-town grandmother who is still active and "fun," but has no transportation : (9 votes)
    10 %
    Fiance's out-of-state grandmother, who he is close to but you have only met once : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    If inviting people (that are invited to the wedding) to a shower was rude, no one would RSVP to showers and showers would no longer be a popular wedding pre-party.


    Invite everyone (assuming yoru Aunt’s venue can hold that amount) and just be ready to accept declining RSVPs from the out of state people and probably some out of town people too.


    Showers aren’t just for friends!

    Post # 4
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @carrotstick:  I would invite everyone. Especially if they are all invited to the wedding. I agree that it would be more rude not to invite them. If they come-great, if not-that’s okay too, but at least you don’t have to feel guilty about it.

    Post # 6
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I think you should invite everyone who is invited to the wedding, that you know on a personal level.  By this I mean that I would exclude my fiance’s female coworkers and friend’s significant others IF I do not have a personal relationship with them.

    I have been invited to bridal showers where I wasn’t friends w/ the bride and I simply declined those.  

    For out of town guests, I think it’s rude not to invite them simply b/c they are from out of town. They will probably decline anyway so you should include them on your guestlist.

    Post # 7
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @carrotstick:  LOL Sorry IDK why I said Aunt, must have been confusing two threads.  It’s Friday and I’m clearly brain dead from the week 🙂

    Post # 8
    220 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m inviting only my future sister and mother in law from out of town. All others are local. Won’t be sending invites to other out of towners.

    Post # 9
    9689 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I included out of town family (aunts, cousins).  I’m sure many won’t be able to come but I figured I should send an invite.  I wouldn’t really worry about how far away they are, just invite your family (if you like them), friends, and his close family/friends.  Even if they can’t come, it’s still nice to be invited.

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