Should I invite this coworker to my wedding?

posted 2 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

bunnytea :  I personally would not invite someone to my wedding if I didn’t like them, even if they were nice to me. It makes no sense to me to have someone who you feel negative towards on what should be one of the happiest days of your life, even if that means they feel “left out”. 

Post # 3
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

I mean, if you’re no longer there, you don’t have to really worry about any fallout. How do they get along with her now? Would she even have a fun time there? Just some things to consider!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re under no obligation to invite her. If you don’t like her, don’t invite her! If she asks about your wedding it’s okay to talk about it, but you don’t owe her an invitation. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wouldn’t! If you still worked closely together, maybe, just to keep the peace. But I think there’s no need to continue a relationship with someone who sounds negative/toxic.

I would, however, let the other ladies know to keep it discreet so her feelings aren’t hurt.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

bunnytea :  Oh, that does change things a bit! In that case, it’s really up to you (and you shouldn’t feel bad about your decision either way). Maybe she realizes she wasn’t as nice to you as she should have been and how valuable you are to your organization! I agree with the other poster that said if you don’t invite her, ask the others not to discuss it in front of her so as not to make her feel bad. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Oof I was in the same boat not too long! I have a set guest list and have included many of my coworkers that I KNOW without a doubt we’d still be in great terms come my wedding day. I already know who I’m definitely not inviting and who would make up the “B Team” (if other guests decline). There is also a very high turnover rate at my place of employment so I am sticking to the individuals I’ve known since I started. At the end of the day it’s YOUR wedding and owe nothing to no one. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

myv13 :  what on earth is an invitation B team??? Do people on the B team know they weren’t your first choice for guests?  

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

anev :  Something I just found out about and apparently is a thing. And I have no idea if people are aware when they are on the B team. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I wouldn’t. She sounds like one of those wedding invite hunters. You know the type: barely has the time of day for you normally, but as soon as they find out you’re engaged and planning a wedding they’re suddenly your bestie for a year.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

I agree with Almostmrsbee.  From what you said I would bet money that she knows that the other four are invited to your wedding and she  is now being nice so you will invite her. I would not invite her no matter how nice she has been now or if she contributed to the check you were given. She is not your friend. If this was a BBQ in your backyard I would say maybe but this your wedding day about you and your fiancé and not some coworker fishing for an invite.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

If it won’t hurt to invite her, just do it. I mean, you guys were a team. If it cost too much, that’s another story.

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