(Closed) Should I invite this frenemy to my wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
47434 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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futuremrscalidreams :  There is no obligation to invite friends of friends. If you want to invite a friend who is now acting very cold to you, invite her. You do not have to invite Queen B.

Honestly, I can’t imagine why you would want to invite Queen B.

Post # 3
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Don’t invite anyone that does not support you or your future marriage. You are not obligated to invite a friend’s friend. If the friend gets mad at you then she really is not a friend worth having

Post # 4
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

The best advice I ever heard about deciding wedding guests was this. When thinking of a possible guest, ask yourself, would you treat this person to a dinner at a five star restaurant? If the amswer is No or you hesitate, dont invite that person.

Post # 5
2044 posts
Buzzing bee

Sorry I don’t understand this part: 


 Also, my finace and I know quite a few wealthy families, and I don’t want her to get any ideas.

at all?

Post # 6
36 posts

I would say no. Don’t invite Queen B. It doesn’t sound like she is someone you would want to have there on such an important day in your life. And you are under no obligation to invite her  

If you want your friend there, invite her. And she should understand why you don’t want Queen B there. It’s your wedding and not hers, and there is no reason that she should be upset with you or “unfriend” you if Queen B is not invited. Your original friendship with your friend has nothing to do with her. 

I hope that helps  


Post # 7
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t understand why you would invite either of these women to your wedding or why you would even see them ever again. It sounds like neither of them want anything to do with you.

Post # 8
2372 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

No, don’t invite Queen B. If you want to, just invite your now-cool friend. If she gets miffed that QB isn’t invited and snubs you (more), she is proving how unworthy she is even more than she already has.

Post # 9
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Are you mature enough to get married if you’re using the word “frenemy”?

Post # 10
9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Yeah I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that no one needs to invite their frenemy to their wedding.

Post # 11
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Heck no! If she’s not someone that you genuinely care about then absolutely don’t invite her. Especially if you’re going to be stressed or uneasy about potential drama. So not worth it. 

Post # 12
1807 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Don’t invite anyone you don’t want there. If your old friend can’t be without the Queen for a day, then she’ll not come to the wedding – and that’s her loss. As you said in your intro, they started going to Happy Hour and stopped inviting you. 

I wonder if you’re really thinking of inviting Queen B because you feel like showing off? It IS the day you’ll look you’re very best. All eyes will be on you. Your wealthy friends will be there. I have a feeling this is more the issue than worrying about keeping a half-assed friend happy when she can’t even to remember to invite you to drinks

Post # 13
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Uh you obviously strongly dislike her so, no. The social cost? Queen B will know you don’t really like her I guess. Is that news to her? As for your friend, if she refuses to be friends with you unless you are friends with her friend, that is very unreasonable. It’s not like they’re an actual couple. 

Post # 14
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with PPs:  “Why would you want to invite Queen B? and
Don’t invite anyone you don’t want there. If your old friend can’t be without the Queen for a day, then she’ll not come to the wedding – and that’s her loss. “

Post # 15
995 posts
Busy bee

Unless Queen B is your other firends SO I really don’t see how she could possibly be upset if you don’t invite her. The simple reason that you are not close to Queen B should be more than enough excuse, not that you need an excuse.

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