Post # 1
Okay, so I have always resisted having a Facebook account. My reasons have been: I already keep in touch with who I want to talk to, I don’t need random people I don’t talk to knowing all about my life, I just don’t feel the need, etc. I also feel like some friends use FB to just show how fab their life is and I don’t want to do that. Now, especially since the wedding, my friends, former co-workers have been on my case join. I know I only have to post what I want, friend who I want, post the pictures I want and lately it has started to seem like a nice way to stay in touch with friends day to day. Do you think I should join? Do you feel like it is a positive thing in your life or a negative? Do you have creepy weirdos and from high school and ex-boyfriends coming out of the woodwork to be your ‘friend’? Do people get ticked if you don’t accept their friend request? ( I still live in the town I grew up in…)
Post # 3
lol I chose all 3. Is that allowed?
Post # 4
The thing I don’t like about FB is when you comment on a friend’s album, it lets ALL your friends see that friends photos. Talk about stalking!
It’s fun for a while, but gets old quick.
Conversely, it’s fun to see friend’s kids pics, etc…
Post # 5
Oracle, I noticed that on people’s albums with our wedding pics…it is very stalker-ish! The whole issue has recently come to light again because sometimes I look at my husband’s facebook page and see that it could be fun to see real friends pics and keep in touch that way. I’m leaning toward joining but I am still undecided. Just really wanted to see if anyone had any truly negative experiences…
Post # 6
I am anti-Facebook, but I’m pretty much the only person I know how doesn’t do it. Personally, I’m just not that interested in it. I feel like I have plenty of other thigns to spend time on (ahem, Weddingbee!). Also, it’s not that I wish anyone ill-will, but if I’ve lost touch with folks from HS or college, I probably don’t need to know what they’re up to. I don’t want to get caught up in the whole popularity contest aspect of it. Finally, in my profession, I think it’s important to maintain a level of privacy that I don’t think Facebook completely allows.
I think there’s something strange about it. One of my friends put photos from my wedding on her site, so then, like random strangers who went to her HS can see pictures of me? I’m just not down…
Post # 7
I like Facebook, personally. I have a lot of old friends and stuff I found on Facebook, but, you are exactly right. You can accept who you want, add what you want, show what you want, etc. I don’t think anyone really gets mad if you dont accept them on Facebook unless they think they are a close friend or something (say maybe you would deny you sister or BFF lol). It doesn’t send a notification if you declined an invitation, so mostly they are likely to forget about it anyway. If you dont like it in the end, you could always delete it!
Post # 8
Facebook is free and you can use it as little or as much as you want. I would just join. It’s not a financial commitment or a time commitment or a commitment of any kind. I don’t think it’s THAT big of a decision to be agonizing and mulling over.
Post # 9
Jessie516: They can still see those pictures of you, even if you are not on Facebook.
I am very cautious about what I post on Facebook (in terms of things I write, or pictures I post). Often my fiance tells me to take things down which I posted up. I am just as cautious of things I post on WeddingBee, too!
The one thing I like about Facebook, though, which is my reason for not deleting it, is the fact that I can communicate with my cousins overseas! It is not easy to constantly send pictures and thoughts through e-mail (or worse, snail mail), so it provides much more communication than would otherwise occur.
Post # 10
I like it, and I havent had alot of people I dont know contact me to be my friend. I like keeping up to date with family (who is the majority of my friends) because they live across the country so its nice to see pics and what they are up to.
Post # 11
I love facebook! Lots of my far-flung friends use it and it is a great way to keep in touch. Just this evening my high school history teacher friended me and I was so excited to hear from her!
Like Karina said, there can be photos of you on facebook whether you yourself have a facebook account or not. Once you have an account though, those photos will be able to be "tagged’ as having you in them. Howver, you can "untag" yourself from any unflattering photos. The untagged photos don’t disappear off facebook, but when you look at "Marzipan’s photos" they won’t show up. You would have to look manually through the album they are in to see them.
If you don’t accept someone’s friend request, they will be none the wiser. If you ignore it, they don’t get a message telling them…it just looks like you never took any action. Lots of people are inactive on their accounts and it’s not unreasonable to think that they just hadn’t gotten around to accepting it yet. I have been friended by people I was never particularly close to. Some of those invites I ignored, and others I accepted but I put those people in a category where they can’t see any of my updates or photos.