(Closed) Should I just give up and cancel the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Give up and elope - the reception is causing all the dramas so ditch it! : (22 votes)
    42 %
    Work day and night through the burnout to hopefully find an ideal venue that may not even exist : (19 votes)
    36 %
    Settle with a venue that won't allow you to have the wedding you want - at least it's a wedding : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Other... : (7 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Honestly? 

    I would elope, if you just want to be married. 

    And then I would have a big vow-renewal-reception-type dealio a year from now (or whenever, I just like celebrating anniversaries). That way you’re finally married, you have another year to look/plan, etc & you still get the wedding you’ve always wanted.

    Post # 4
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    2463 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i voted other–you (understandably!) sound super frustrated right now since you just got this news today, i’d take a day or few days or week off completely to try and re-charge. just trying to breathe some deep breaths and sleeping on it might make it clearer if you want to elope or try finding another place.

    Post # 5
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    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Mackinaw Valley Vineyard; Bloomington Center for the Performing Arts

    I’m sorry you’re having so many venue issues, that sounds really frustrating. If it were me, I’d still want to have a wedding or at least a celebration with family and friends. If I didn’t find a decent venue, I would just have something in my dad’s backyard or at a park.  They might not be ideal, but I would ultimately get to celebrate with the people I love and include the fun things (straws, yay!) that I love as well.

    But, that’s just me. What do you want? Are you going to regret not having the wedding you’ve always planned?  Or is it more important to you to be married?  I don’t think there is a wrong answer and people will support your decision because they want you to be happy.

    Good luck on coming to a decision, it sounds frustrating and awful, but hopefully it will get better soon!

    Post # 6
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    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    ugh- I am between Elope and Find another venue that will work for you- but portable bathrooms must be OUT.  Those are nasty.  

    Post # 9
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @pohget: then don’t tell them! 😉 

    I kid… 

    Or do I? 

    Post # 10
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    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think you should try to have a wedding, even if it isn’t your ideal.  It sounds like you will be disappointed if you elope.

    Post # 11
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I sounds like deep down, you still want a wedding – so don’t let this pain-in-the-rear venue situation stop you from having what you really want!

    I don’t know how active the aussie boards on here are, but I would post a specific ques looking for outside venues in your area & see if any Bees can give you places they had their weddings at, or been to weddings at.

    If you really want a wedding, don’t give up on your dream 🙂

    Post # 12
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think that your passion for having a wedding really states that you should work through the burn out. I know that you can get this done, it seems over whelming now but I have faith! I think if you don’t have want you want and just give up you might regret it.

    Post # 15
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @pohget: I would google as many places as you can. Get all of their email addresses together. Put them in the bcc line and send one generic email explaining your situation and how stressful and sad it is, giving your budget, guest count, etc. I bet there is someone out there with a big heart who will work with you. (I by the way did this for my rehearsal dinner, the restaurant we planned cancelled 3 weeks before, and I got ton of responses back from places willing to lower the price because they still had their private spaces open. It’s worth a shot!)

    Post # 16
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    ” after we had already booked in and signed the contract

    How is it even legal/possible that they changed the per head price after a contract was drawn up and signed? It shouldn’t be possible for them to do that.

    But, I think with the level of heartache and stress you’ve gone through, you should do what it takes to be happy on your day. It sounds like eloping might be the ticket.

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