- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
So my Fiance and I have been together for 10 years (I know it’s a long time). He was ready to propose when I was still finishing college and I just wasn’t there so I told him to wait. Grad school came and went and now that I finally have time for my personal life he proposed
It was super romantic and we were both very excited and had planned on having a destination wedding in Hawaii. My family seemed thrilled, but that all blew up in my face because of the destination wedding concept and my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) started a massive argument with me about the location.
This was during the holidays. I tried to talk it out during the holidays, but it went no where. I had resigned myself to a wedding in Carmel, CA, but no one in my family has discussed the wedding with me since! No questions, comments, inquiries etc. (Although my father did ask me if I was happy to be engaged). My Fiance and I stopped planning and have been putting our money to us on business ventures. Plus recently my father lost his job.
Between the financial hardship of a wedding and the fact that not ONE of my family members has discussed the wedding with me since the blow up should I just assume my Fiance and I should elope? I’m starting to feel like no one cares and it would just be an inconvenience. I won’t lie, it’s devistating to think they don’t care, but ultimately I don’t want to feel guilty for having a wedding where everyone is resentful they’re there. I’m also sick of feeling like I’m never going to get married. Thoughts?