Should I just leave him?!

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 31
5647 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Dump him. You know you don’t want to live like this and he’s perfectly happy letting you pay for things while he half asses his way through life.

Chalk it up to shitty lessons learned. This wasn’t a waste- you’ve had a chance to learn about what is important for you in life and in relationships and it’s given you a chance to see how far you will go for someone you are loyal to. Now you need to learn about being more discerning and boundaries and making yourself and your own needs as important as those of your partner.

Finally- you pawning your rings without telling him was crappy but him trying to tell a woman that’s been paying for things for the last couple years that she can’t use his car is, to me, a sign that his ass needs to be instantly dumped and sent back home to his mother.

Post # 32
900 posts
Busy bee

You have a parasite. Treat accordingly.

Post # 33
483 posts
Helper bee

LEAVE him bee. This guy needs to be instantly dumped on his ass & sent back to his mama’s house…you know you don’t wanna continue living this way.

Bc you will still paying for all his shit while he continues to half ass his way through life – why do that when you can move on & find someone way better. Set boundaries from now on what you will & will NOT tolerate from a man…

Post # 34
958 posts
Busy bee

Not marriage material. What you see is what you get don’t expect it to change…

Post # 35
1623 posts
Bumble bee

vbenford :  Are you now living together? 

To be honest I would just leave, normally I am all for working things out but that can only be achieved when the other person is trying too. It sounds like he knows that it doesn’t matter what he does because he knows he can fall back on to you. Like it doesn’t matter whether he has a job because you will stop him from being homeless and pay for everything. It sounds like your kind of just looking after a man child. And not going to lie, I would have snorted at the comment about not driving his car when you probably put the money towards it and even if you didn’t it’s a tiny thing compared to what you do for him. 

He is being stupid about being mad at the rings, I would have just responded that the situation he has put you in has made that happen. Be a man, get a job and either get them back or get you new rings. He’s got no one to blame but himself.

Post # 38
1308 posts
Bumble bee

Uhhh, hold the phone. He said he’d punch you in the stomach if you were pregnant?! What the fuck?? Okay, now it’s CLEAR that this guy is a worthless douchebag. Bee, do you feel afraid to leave him? If you think he may get aggressive or dangerous, if you think he’ll physically try to stop you from leaving the apartment, you need to contact someone who can help you make an escape plan. Reach out to your friends and family and have them help you. I you think he won’t try to stop you, you should still have someone at the apartment with you while you’re moving out. Please do not stay in this relationship any longer. 

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