Post # 1
A couple people in my family know that I am engaged, because I was going to wait for the right time to tell the rest of my family. I have five, yes ladies FIVE older brothers, me being the baby and only sister sucks a lot. My one brother who I have gotten a lot closer with the past year doesn’t approve of my fiance( he doesn’t know we are engaged yet) for no reason, he has never met my fiance because of some trouble my fiance has gotten into in the past. I know my brother(s) is trying to look out for me, however he has NEVER cared to tell me he doesn’t approve of any of the guy’s I have been with, ever. WHY now? I don’t understand. Anyways, getting to the point I am just thinking now that I should just tell my whole family and leave it at that. My other brother’s wont really care that much and I know they wont.
Post # 3
You are ENGAGED!! You should absolutely be screaming that to everyone near and dear – regardless of feelings shared from one party to the next. Let them decide how they will react, do not assume, and then if it is negative decide how to proceed from there. I just think that by choosing to not share, you will a) make it worse, or b) are ‘admitting’/showing shame in your engagement, which would make others think their feelings are correct about your relationhip not being ‘right’. If that makes sense 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 4
Tell them :] Youll feel better when everythings out and open!
Post # 5
If you are commited and mature enough to be engaged than you should absolutely get it out there. Not telling gives the impression that you aren’t sure it is the right thing.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
I tried to tell my parents by email, lol. But after I got twitchy waiting for them to check, I called mum and told her anyway. Left her to break the news to my Dad and Brother!
But I’m a wimp, and was getting mega-anxiety over the thing. They love my FH though, so it worked out fine.
Post # 7
@ieatunicorns: Couldn’t agree more. Just put it out there without any expecations of how it’s going to go (mainly no HIGH expectations). If they give you a hard time, take it in stride, and move ahead with your plans.
Post # 8
I told them, they all said congrats lol
Post # 9
@ieatunicorns: Sorry but I have to disagree with your statement that not telling people means that you’re unsure that getting married is the right thing to do. People have different reasons for not telling people of their upcoming wedding plans and why they chose to do so is nobody else’s business.
Congratulations OP, I’m glad that they’re happy for you!
Post # 10
Tell them. They’ll find out soon enough. No use in waiting.
Post # 11
I did, I was just worried about what they would say, my one brother isn’t happy but I really don’t care. My other brothers said that as long as I am happy that is all that matters. We just have to tell his family now but we are waiting a little bit because of some personal reasons. It’s not that we are unsure it’s just his family is a lot different then mine when it comes to things like getting married.
ETA- Most of my brother’s thought I was going to tell them I was pregnant lol
Post # 12
Oops. Edit: Congrats on telling them.