- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Hello to all of you!
I’m in an awkward situation (or at least that’s how I feel), so I thought I’d post a thread and hear your thoughts.
I have 4 BM’s, including my Maid/Matron of Honor. My Maid/Matron of Honor and one of the BM’s are my high school friends and we keep in touch pretty regularly. I talk to my Maid/Matron of Honor on a daily basis. So lets call these two A and B. My other two BM’s (lets call them C and D) — I became friends with a few years ago. We (meaning C, D, and I) used to be very close and hang out almost every weekend, until I started dating my Fiance. They weren’t really happy about me dating him for various reasons. But after things started to get serious, it seemed like they were accepting of the idea.
Fast forward one year — I got engaged and asked C and D to be my BM’s. It wasn’t easy as I knew of their reservations about my relationship (which affected our friendship in a way over past year — we stopped talking/hanging out on a regular basis, although I still thought of them as good friends), but thankfully they both accepted.
Now, to my surprise, C started being really hard from the get go (shooting down every Bridesmaid or Best Man dress suggestions made by A, B and me but not really suggesting an alternative, making rude comments about my Fiance, having us to plan the bachelorrett party based on her schedule, etc). I was shocked and hurt by her behavior, as I thought she’d be one of the most supportive friends I have. But I decided not to fuss about it (no drama needed here) and be whatever…although A and B were terriblly annoyed by C.
D on the other hand showed support and offered to help out, which I really appreciated.
So that’s the background. My thing is, I don’t normally talk to C and D on a regular basis. But should I reach out to them once in a while to see how they’re doing since they’re now my BM’s? I used to talk to C more frequently, but it sort of fizzled out after I got engaged and (she started acting, umm, weird). I’m a bit confused because so far, they weren’t really invovled in the planning process (other than giving me feedback on dresses), and they never really check up on me either. So do I just leave them alone as is and update them periodically about where we are in terms of wedding planning, or am I supposed to check up on them like, say every week?
Thanks for reading!