Post # 1
I have a foster kitten who I’ve been nursing back to health after she endured a terrible accident and days in a shelter without proper treatment. I just found someone who wants to adopt her on Friday, but I’m suffering from attachment and am wondering how I’ll let her go.
She’s only about 5wk old and it’s not clear what her personality will be yet. She desperately wants to be friends with my cat, who isn’t so into her, but maybe she’ll come around in time? My cat keeps trying to slap her so I have to keep them separated. Yes, my cat is kind of a jerk.
Fiance and I have tossed around the idea of a second cat casually ever since we got our first. On one hand, if this new home is good, I should go for it. She’ll be happy and safe. On the other hand… I kind of adore her.
Post # 2
Lol..I hear you!!! My fiancee and I ended up keeping our foster baby bottle kitten and we have 3 other cats!!!! AND, keeping her was my fiancee’s idea and he is NOT a pet person!!!
So, it is hard!! And, my other cats did the whole hissing and wacking the kitten in the head thing. Our kitten is now 9 weeks old and I catch my cats playing with her. When they get rough with her she gives it right back!! She’s tough!
As far as your situation, if your cat is an old cat set in his/her ways…he/she may just end up tolerating the kitten…OR, they could become buddies.
My 11 year old doesn’t deal with my other 2 adults or the kitten, but every once in awhile she will play with them.
Having 2 cats is nowhere near crazy cat lady territory!! I, though, have entered that territory!!! hahaha
You know what my vote is!!! Keep thr baby!!!!! You love her!!!!!! lol
Post # 3
Thank you!! I do love her, but maybe I’m just a pushover who would love any tiny injured kitten that comes into my home. I’m trying to convince myself to let it go – it will be more expensive, more cat hair and allergends (we’re mildly allergic), what if my cat never warms up to her, etc….
Oh! You sound like a good person to ask. My cat is a year and two months old. What do you think? Young enough to adjust? Or set in her ways? Both cats are tortoiseshell, if you believe in tortitude and think that makes a difference 🙂
Post # 4
I love torties! !! So VOCAL! A year and a half is still young!
I’d be concerned about the allergies, though. Maybe you can ask a doctor..like online or something?
As far as expenses..if she has no underlying conditions it shouldn’t be much more $$$
Post # 5
If there’s a lovely home lined up, then I’d say let her go. Purely as it means you have space to help more needy cats in the future and this little one is safe now. Easier said than done, but there is a positive flip side.
Post # 6
Exactly. I’m trying to talk myself into this mindset now. If it’s a good, loving home, I think I should let her go. They’re hard to come by where I live. But, you know, if there’s some sort of problem or it doesn’t work out, well… 😉
Post # 7
You’re doing a wonderful thing! Fostering homeless animals is incredibly noble. I think you could go either way, but I tend to agree with PP who said that you can foster another needy cat if you find a loving, forever home for this one. Good luck!
Post # 8
I couldn’t foster any animal. I’d have to keep them!
I say try to keep her and most likely your kitty will come around.
Post # 9
i would let her go if i was SURE the new owners were going to be bringing her to a good safe home. your other cat just does not seem into her and you already have a furbaby to love. share! lol
Post # 10
I kept a bottle baby foster even though it was probably a bad idea! She grew up to be sweet and loving, though she had difficulties with basic cat things (she’s afraid of safe things and unafraid of dangerous things, really bad at playing, can’t clean herself well so we use kitten wipes on her, etc).
The only thing that concerns me is your jerk kitty, because we also have a jerk kitty. He was fine at first, but once our rescue became an adult, he became the most behavioral cat ever (aggressive toward the other kitty, spraying even though he’s fixed and we have two litter boxes, scooting his butt across the floor leaving poo streaks even though he has no health problems according to the vet, screaming at the top of his little kitty lungs whenever he isn’t the center of attention, insisting on sitting and sleeping between my husband and I at all times) because he just can’t deal with her existence.
So… Honestly, if your kitten has another home, I would let her go and let your jerk kitty live in peace. And you can always make it part of the adoption contract that if foster kitty is a bad fit, she must be returned to you…
Post # 11
Stupid jerk cats! What a nightmare. Have you tried bach’s rescue remedy, or lavender drops, etc., to calm your kitty?
There’s an update… after an interview, it seems the new home is fantastic and loving. I think it’s the right thing for the cat to let her go. But I’m pretty heartbroken about it. She’s such a lovely cat. She literally purrs when you look at her, just wants to cuddle and play… I’m worried that if we do end up getting a second cat, it won’t be as loving and wonderful as her.
I’ll include that if it doesn’t work out for any reason, at any time, I’ll take her back.
This is my first time fostering a cat that I LOVED (well, except for Jerk Cat, who used to be a foster). All the others I’ve been quite “meh” about – they’re lovely little kittens for sure, but I never became too attached.
Post # 12
I can’t tell you what to do about the little kitty but I’m glad she has the option of 2 long homes and is safe now.
Re: multiple cats. Cats are funny little things because they’re so complex and don’t automatically love everyone. I’m gathering since she’s only 5 weeks old that the kitty hasn’t been there for very long at all. We have 3 cats and 2 are acquaitances. They are both individually very happy but they just tolerate each…. they kind of remind me of room mates…. it’s pretty amusing, I could imagine them leaving each other passive aggressive notes lol. And I’ve found it can take months or even years for cats to come out of their little shells around each other, particularly if they’ve got a bit of a background. My Mum’s cat was evil for over 12 months after he had to come live with us after she passed. I don’t know what would have happened to him if he went to a pound as you would never have guessed what a lovely boy he is. Point being, I’m sure the kitties would learn to love each other if you did keep the little gal.
Post # 13
My cat doesn’t like the cat I adopted earlier this year, but she tolerates him extremely we! So even if they dint become buddies oy should be fine! I will always vote for keeping the animal!good luck! And you’re awesome for taking suck good care of her!
Post # 14
Aww, OP I’m glad you found the perfect home for your little foster kitty! I’m sure they will take great care of her and love her! I know it will be hard to let her go, but it seems like you found her the perfect forever home 🙂 And I’m sure she appreciates the help and care and love you have given her!
Post # 15
Thanks everyone! So I decided to let her go to the good home, sulked about it for the last two days, and then tonight…. the new home stood me up. Fate?