Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids and I have been friends since highschool. She has always been really moody and unpreducatble. When she asked me if she could be in the bridal party I caved in and said yes becuase we have been friends for years. Now she is causing all sorts of stress for my fiance and I as well as my family. She frequenty yells at me and sends rude texts to me and then makes up some excuse for why she was in a “bad mood” that day. She thinks that she needs to be involved in all aspects of planning the wedding. She also makes my younger sister (who is also my maid of honor) cry on frequent occasion. I really am starting to realize that I do not want her to be a bridesmaid any more. I feel hesitant to kick her out because she had already purchased her dress. How can I politely tell her that she is out?
Post # 2
You might want to first give her a chance to straighten up before kicking her out, considering she has already purchased the dress. Tell her that you have enough stress to deal with and that you really cannot handle her extra crap right now. Maybe get someone else as a back up who can buy a dress if necessary. But why have someone involved with this day in your life if they’re just going to make you miserable?
Post # 3
If she already bought the dress I would pay her back for it if you kick her out. I think that’s only fair. However, maybe try talking to her first? If you kick her out i can pretty much guarantee you’ll lose her friendship, so think hard about if that’s what you really want to do.
Post # 4
Just be straight with her. Confront her on how she’s been acting and say that you don’t need this kind of behaviour towards you and your family and you definitely don’t need it during one of the happiest times of your life. It’s unnecessary stress. And that’s completely uncalled for, making your sister cry.
Post # 5
Yes I would. Offer to reimburse for the dress.