(Closed) Should I kick out my Bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

She asked my fiance and I to gift her $1000 for her honeymoon, only to throw a fit when we said no.

That’s a no. I stopped reading there. You have extended so much for this girl only to have her place demands on you. That is an ugly request and that is not what friends do. Byeeeeee

 

ETA: finished reading. She needs to go.

ETA again: I don’t think you need to stand in her wedding either. The “friendship” y’all have is not worth honoring and you really don’t owe this girl anymore of your time, attention or resources.

Post # 3
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7801 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I mean, you arent her friend, you are her ATM. Kicking her out will be friendship ending, but this isnt a friendship I would even entertain in keeping.

Post # 4
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

If you keep this “friend” she will just continue to use and abuse your friendship. I would not hesitate to drop this chick from your wedding and from your life. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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sunberry928 :  She kind of sounds like that chick who supposedly asked all of her guests for thousands of dollars to pay for her dream wedding.

I’d drop her, and drop out of her wedding. She sounds super ungrateful, and honestly sounds like she’s straight up using you and your fiance.

The balls she has to ask you for $1000 GIFT, like wtf. 

Post # 6
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I’d not even invite her to the wedding after all that…

Post # 8
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2544 posts
Sugar bee

This person is completely absurd. I don’t know how in the world she could ever think that any of those things are reasonable things to ask for. $1000 gifts? Paying for the VENUE? Throwing parties at your home when you’re not there??? 

I wouldn’t want to continue this friendship if I were you. Taking her out of your bridal party is probably the fastest way to end a friendship, so that’s definitely an option. I’d be a little wary of the potential dramatic fall out so close to your wedding, but it’s likely a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation. Will you still be in her wedding if you ask her not to be in yours? 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I certainly think you have reason to ask her to step down, and it sure as hell won’t “ruin the friendship,” since it already sounds pretty ruined to me. It might be more trouble than its worth, though, as it seems like she may back out of her own accord. 

I don’t really think you did anything wrong here, but you went WAY overboard paying for things for her. A car? GROCERIES? OP, you’re not her parents. She’s an adult, and she got herself fired somehow. Even if she were at NO fault whatsoever, it was inappropriate for you to have given so much–and now you’re being bitten in the ass for it. Offer to help with time, emotional support, and to take someone out for a nice dinner when shitty things happen, but don’t be their parent. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I can see why she likes being around you – what exactly do you get from being around her?

Your “friend” sounds like a self-centered leech. Cut ties now and consider the money you spent on her as the price of learning your own value as a person and a friend. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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sunberry928 :  Omg, I LOL’d at the part about her breaking the tea pot, it blows my mind that people behave this way.

I’d dump her 100%, she’s drama and will bring drama to your special day.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

 

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sunberry928 :  

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futuremrs2020 :  

I can see her making a scene at the second wedding if there is the slightest bit of jealousy going on. What if at your wedding there are more than 4 gifts? Oooofff I can see it now. Total shit storm.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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sunberry928 :  NOPE NOPE NOPE That is her recklessness and you DO NOT take sympathy for that obnoxious behavior. That is not your responsibility.

You have bent over backwards for this girl and she keeps running back to you to see how much she can squeeze.

Do not waste a single bit of pity on this woman.

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