(Closed) Should I kick out my Bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 76
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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sunberry928 :  that is because she don’t see you as a friend. She is using you for stuffs. A friend will be worries about what is on your mind and will give you the time of the day to talk. She only keeping you around until you don’t have anything to give her then she will drop you like a hot potato.

– By a bee who have plenty of experience in receiving that treatment

Post # 77
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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sunberry928 :  Please for your sake msg her, email her and cc all the bridesmaids in her wedding and TELL her. You will NOT be paying for her wedding, you will NOT be standing up with her or attending and she is no longer a part of your wedding. You sound afraid of her. 

Post # 78
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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sunberry928 :  then text her. You tried to do the right thing by telling her person to person what was up and she shit all over you again.

“The reason I wanted to talk to you is because your behaviour recently – with regard to your own wedding and mine – has been completely absurd. I have asked very, very little of you in your role at my wedding and you have not even delivered on the simple task of fitting your dress. Therefore, I cannot trust that you will be reliable at any point leading up to or on my wedding day and need you to step down. 

With regard to your wedding, I will be stepping down from my role as Bridesmaid. I did not sign up to fund your wedding and it is completely unacceptable for you to expect your wedding party to foot the bill. Have a wedding you can afford or have no wedding at all. Either way, I cannot be a part of it anymore.

The way you have been treating me recently is extremely rude and hurtful, especially hanging up on me when I told you we needed to talk. I expect an apology and a commitment to better behaviour in the future, otherwise I will need to step down from my role in your life altogether.”

Post # 79
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Sugar bee

Text or email her.  The sooner you tell her the better.. it will probably be easier to get out all of your thoughts on the issue in writing anyway and she’s really given you no other choice. Please, please do not just brush this under the rug and fork over your hard earned money to pay for this lunatic’s wedding. 

Post # 80
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Sadly with every update I think this is a fake post. 

Post # 81
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m losing confidence in the legitimacy too. Troll or pushover.

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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sunberry928 :  YES! Please let us know her response!

Post # 84
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Finally a proper update! Good for you, bee.

Now you can spend your effort on real friends and your own wedding.

Post # 85
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

 

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sunberry928 :  oh good!! You did the right thing and I think in the long run you will be much happier you did it. 

That said – I have GOT to know what she says!! Lol I keep a very drama free life so I live off the drama of random Internet people.

Post # 87
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Bumble bee

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sunberry928 :  Stay Strong bee!! This is the right decision. Don’t let her pleads get to you. You have NOTHING to feel bad about. 

Post # 88
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Bumble bee

She’s not sad at the prospect that you won’t be at her wedding or she won’t be at yours. Make no mistake, she’s crying because she just lost the best freebie bank account she ever had—you. 

Sick but true. Stay the course and dump this loser. Tell her if she shows up to your wedding you will have her escorted off the property before she reaches the door. Let this be a lesson to her on what happens to greedy, egotistical, narcissistic, entitled brats. The end.

Post # 89
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Block her and her FI!

Like you said, she’s just manipulating you. She’s sad to lose her free ATM. Stay firm!!

Post # 90
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Blushing bee

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sunberry928 :  STAY FIRM! Do not let this leach of a “friend” be a part of your day, even as a guest. She lost her chance to fix it when she told you she only would talk to you if you gave her money! WHO DOES THAT?!? You are a good person and that is what got you into this situation, remember being good doesn’t mean you have to be a pushover! Be kind to yourself now.

How much $$$ did she ask for to pay the food? You should be able to give her a card and have her be grateful for you, with all the other expenses you have paid.

Stay strong gorgeous bee! Keep talking to us as much as you need. You can do this x

P.S. Please don’t feel guilty. I would have called her a monster to her face and not felt bad at this point. You have been beyond kind and fair.

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