(Closed) Should I kick out my Bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 91
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

“Unless you’re calling me with your credit card number, I don’t have time.”

There is nothing to add to this. She has told you all you need to know. What a cow. 

Post # 92
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337 posts
Helper bee

This is so crazy, I cannot believe people like this exist. So toxic.

She sounds insanely jealous too actually. She is a complete failure at being a grown up, and resents you for doing everything she does, but in the way it should be done. I would be dead wary of her turning up and creating a scene at the wedding, she sounds mental. Keep precautions in place in cas this should happen. I still cant figure out why you like her so much though. Its the only thing that makes me doubt the authenticity of this post. But you sound way too nice. I hope you have a great wedding and I feel sorry that you wasted time and money on this crazy chick.

Post # 93
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Wow, this chick is straight up GROSS! Bee, she’s only upset because her ATM is no longer dispensing cash. She’s shown you her true colours. Stay strong.

Post # 94
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773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Glad you stood up for yourself bee! Block out everything about this woman, her FH, her wedding etc. 

Go get a massage. 

Time to focus on having a lovely celebration between you, your FH and the people who actually love you. Congrats!

Post # 95
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727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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sunberry928 :  Don’t feel bad about the decision you made and don’t allow her to manipulate you. Glad you stood up for yourself. She just wants your money. She’s already asked the wedding party to foot the bill for food and booze she knows that without your money towards that she’s going to be stuck. Stand your ground cut this leach out of your life. Don’t let the fake crodile tears get to you. If she really valued you and the friendship she wouldn’t have been carrying on this way. Anything she says to you now will be just and excuse for why she  has been acting this way and her behavior it doesn’t justify her doing any of what she has. Be strong. Block her.

Post # 96
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2944 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Do NOT let her make you feel guilty. You gave her so many chances to show you she cared and she didn’t. All she did was take, take, take and then shit all over you when you didn’t want to give any more.

I agree with PPs that you should have a plan in place for your own wedding in case she decides to show. Do you have security? If so, give them a photo and tell them not to let her or her fiance in. If not, then I’d designate a few friends to keep an eye out and keep her from coming in.

Someone who is that much of a user is unpredictable when they’re suddenly told no, so while she may very well just fade into the distance, you just can’t bank on that and have to prepare for her to go a little psycho. 

Post # 97
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2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

You are a giver, she is a taker. Simple as that. In future, be more selective in who you help.

Post # 98
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869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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sunberry928 :Hi bee you sound like an amazing friend! but this friend of yours has mistaken your kindness for weakness.. I would just tell her that you wish her well and explain to her how inconsiderate she has been to you. You said she missed your bridal shower? I mean what was her excuse for that and her behavior is absolutely unacceptable and asking you for money and you’re credit card number? who does she think she is… I would block all of her social media accounts , block her # and tell her to have a nice life.. Maybe JUST MAYBE she will learn her lesson and not treat people like crap…. it’s her loss not yours 

Post # 99
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7803 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Stay strong bee!

If I were you, I’d also disinvite her YOUR wedding. Not just standing up with you. It sounds like she still wants to attend, that could be a huuuuge drama fest. 

Post # 100
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8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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sunberry928 :  Essentially she is begging for me to be there for her [financially], she can’t lose me as a friend [ATM], she will be there on my wedding day no matter what [so behave or else].

fixed it for you.

Post # 102
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2544 posts
Sugar bee

If you start to lose your resolve please just re-read this thread. She’s a manipulative user and she’s likely to slather you with love and self-pity now. Remind yourself how she treated you BEFORE she thought she was losing you. 

 

Post # 103
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

You dont need that kind of ungrateful toxicity on your life. 

Boot her!

Post # 104
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

Like the reason this has happened two weeks before her wedding is because everyone has been so nice.

Shes an ungrateful cow.

She clearly couldnt afford a wedding and there is no need to have one u til you can afford it. In my opinion is disgusting she shove all the expense on her GUESTS. A wedding isnt a right. Sorry. but no.

You dont treat people the way she is. Its unaccaeptable and the consequences are just the karma she has sown.

Additionally I’d be saying no your not invited to my wedding so dont fucking come. 

The fact is that you have your own wedding to organise and pay for and you have been so accommodating to everyone. Its goddam disrespectful that shes harassing you and playing victim at this time. 

Sometimes hard lessons are learned. She has other friends and family. 

THIS IS NO LONGER YOUR PROBLEM!!! 

XOXOXOX

Post # 105
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

What insanity! Stay strong, bee! She’s only trying to get back in with you now because you’ve put up with her crap for so long and she needs your wallet! Block them, stay focused on you and your fiance’s wedding.

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