Should I Leave?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

You’ve felt this way for the majority of your 14 year relationship, so why are you wondering now whether or not to leave? What changed?

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

14 years and you’ve been unsure of him the whole time!?!? Yes, you should definitely break up! 14 years is a whole big chunk of your life. Don’t waste more time. Not everyone breaks up because things are bad. Some people just aren’t right for one another. 

Post # 4
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261 posts
Helper bee

If you really sit and read your post, I think you’ll be able to answer your own question.

You think of him as a friend and have been having doubts for 14 years..

 

You both deserve to be with someone who makes you happy and without any uncertainty. 

Post # 5
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610 posts
Busy bee

Don’t stay without someone just because it’s comfortable. You deserve love and passion in your life. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

Have you ever felt passion with him? When you imagine life without him do you feel excited or sad? Do you enjoy being affectionate with him? Not just sex, but kissing and cuddling etc. 

I think that most relationships become comfortable after some time and the excitement and passion fades somewhat, but if you see him as more of a friend than a lover something is definitely wrong. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

How does he feel?

Does he want to settle down with you?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

What was making you have doubts about him being a life partner? I think is very normal after 14 years for passion to fade, but I think having doubts that he is your life partner is not a good sign. When you think of the future do you picture him by your side?

I think the ultimate question is do you feel you would be fine without him? If so then he’s not the one. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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laura12312017 :  yes, you can break up with someone for not feeling passionate or excited about the relationship. Your heart isn’t in it. You’re not doing anyone any good by remaining in that relationship. 

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