- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
First I want to thank everyone who has responded to my previous post and helped me through a difficult situation I really appreciate your help and hope you’ll continue to give me some words of wisdom.
Just a quick update, me and my fiance have been together for 2 years, engaged for almost one year, there is a 2 year age difference. We moved together March 1st so we could save for our wedding. My sister who just recently got divorced moved to our city and has been staying with us since Jan. I got a place and she is moving out this week. The thing is I am serious considering moving out as well because of all the problems we have been having.
One of the major issues has always been that he doesn’t believe in marriage and he agreed to get married because he knows I wanted to, but his heart was never into it. I feel like I kind of forced him into it and instead of our engagement being a wonderful romantic time where we plan our wedding it was full of fights and me ending up in tears because he didn’t even want to talk about the wedding until very recently. He finally agreed and we put down a deposit for a venue in March, but i never felt that he was excited and happy. Anyways it took a month for me to cancel the reservation for the venue and postpone the wedding.
We were also having problems with his ex wife and daugther, but that has gotten much better right now.
The other major problem we have been having is that we were both political activists, however while i have some balance between my activities, work, activism, family, relationship, i feel like he doesn’t. His main priority is his activism, I asked him to have atleast one day a week for us, on Saturdays but he won’t even agree to that (god forbid if there is a meeting on saturday). Everything is all about his need for his meetings, his articles he has to write, he has to spend at least a few hours every night on the computer, which I am ok with but I think at least after 10 pm should be us time. But everything is a challange, everything is an argument.
I am so emotionally exhausted. Yesterday he left for a political meeting in Sweden, he’ll be back on Tuesday. We had been fighting for a few days and I told him I would be moving out before he comes back. My friend is coming over tom to take my clothes and move it to the new place I rented with my sister.
The only issue is I love him so much and I wish this would work. The night before he left he went to a protest, it was a big protest and I was ok with it, but I was hoping he would come home earlier and want to spend some time with me too, but that never happened, he finished his protest at 10:00pm. To make things worse he bought us tickets to go to cuba on the 18th…