My cousin stayed in a bad situation for (IMO) too long. She considered her dedication to him to be the right and righteous thing – for herself and also for their child to grow up with her father and mother together. We urged her to leave many times – every time he would push her, every time he would verbally abuse her, every time he’d emotionally scar her and make her feel like less of a person. But she was dedicated, faithful, and steadfast in her goal of family.
A commendable, beautiful goal. You said for better or for worse and you meant it.
I won’t tell you what to do, but here’s the rest of the story:
At the end of the day, he ended up being divorced (wife 1), currently married (wife 2 + child), plus my cousin and their child, had a house in forclosure, ran out on 3 leases, moved my cousin and their baby out of state, and ended up being the same dirty, lying, CHEATER he always was. One night he told her he “didn’t care about her or HER kid and she could go live with her mom” So she did. And she’s been happy as a clam ever since. Her daughter is happier, her job is better, her family is stronger – and that was her real goal.
Now, I don’t know your husband or you, he’s probably none of the above things. But the bad things he is now… honey, they don’t change (Tigers don’t change their stripes, remember that saying?)
Another good one is, “The simplest answer is to act” What’s meant to be, whether it’s what you WANT it to be or not, whatever is meant to be will be. IMO, you should take a leap of faith right back to your parent’s house and see what happens next.
Your other option would be to stay and work work work TOGETHER to make your goal a reality. Maybe a couples retreat? That’s fun, romantic, and helpful! If he’s feeling the same way as you, broken up, then there is hope for him yet 😉
Either way, Merry Christmas Eve and I hope you get everything you want because you should! This thread did turn into a ton of posts, but it’s a sore subject for a lot of people who love someone who is in, has been in, would like to get out of a tough situation. <3