(Closed) Should I leave?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Yeah, sorry to say it but boy are those red flags waving.

Post # 33
2317 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Get the hell out of there now. And be safe about it, this guy sounds dangerous.

Post # 34
5151 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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ladywquestions:  RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN !!!!

Post # 35
2111 posts
Buzzing bee

Um.. no. This man sounds like a psycho.

Post # 36
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Get. Out.

Don’t look back.

And, honestly, I think you need to be prepared that your leaving could trigger some scary behavior from this guy, because you, and not he, will be in control.

Please confide in a few close friends who can be a support network for you while you extract yourself from this relationship. You do not need to see the dark side of this man firsthand to know it’s there.

Post # 37
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Another vote for get the hell OUT, and fast. For alllll of the reasons previously mentioned. My gawd. He’s really testing the boundaries with you, and so far your staying tells him it’s all OK with you. Nope. And I’d make plans to tell him it’s over in a public place…then plan for some serious backup with friends and family. Also a great suggestion earlier to look up his public records. Prayers for your safety bee!!! Do update us… 

Post # 38
6800 posts
Busy Beekeeper

If you ever wonder if leaving is the wrong move, picture this….

you come home from work late and the house is dark.  You let yourself in the front door and as you shut it you realize standing behind the door is your boyfriend, holding box cutters and just quietly watching you….

No wonder he doesn’t get to see his kid!  I didn’t read past the boxcutters, but it’s clear it only got worse (or the same).  Go!

Post # 39
7635 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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ladywquestions:  Holy cr*p, that was quite disturbing to read. Leave him.

He’s violent (which is by far the worst). But also he makes no effort to see his daughter, and sexually harasses girls at his job. 

Post # 40
75 posts
Worker bee


And do it in a public place, because I could see him losing his shit and beating you, or worse. 

Block him on all social media, from your phone, etc. as well.

Post # 41
8012 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

No No No No No No No. RUN. He’s scaring me through the computer.

This isn’t some guy who leaves the toilet seat up and forgets to pay a bill once in a while. This guy is a creepy stalker waiting in the bushes with a box cutter. Get rid of him and protect yourself–make sure you have people in your life who know this story, know where you are supposed to be, etc. 

Post # 42
3838 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

In case you haven’t read the words enough: RUN.

He is dangerous. I’m sure he was really nice and sweet to his ex wife as well before he was crouching in a bush with a box cutter. There is bad and then there is the stuff he did.

Agree with PP that whenever you decide to break up with him, do it in a public place and make sure your friends and family know about it. He has already proven that he does not know how to control his anger or behavior. And that isn’t even addressing his issue as a teacher wanting to “give it” to students. Yuck.

Post # 43
400 posts
Helper bee


I excused things from my ex-husband when we were dating like his wanting to buy a live bird from the pet store for the cat to hunt “because it would be fun to watch”. (now I realize this was some serial killer shit). I excused him saying he would never accept no to sex because I thought he was young and hey, I liked sex so much I didn’t think it would ever come up. There was a whole host of other red flags that I see now, but I married him.

I divorced him because he hit me, threatened me, emotionally manipulated me, and raped me. I’m not saying this is definitely your future with this guy, but I didn’t think it was my future at one time either.

Post # 44
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

Get out of this relationship and CHANGE YOUR LOCKS. If you are a renter, talk to your landlord about needing the locks changed and stay with a friend for a few days until it’s done. Even if you don’t think he has a copy of your key. 

Post # 45
4097 posts
Honey bee

This isn’t real. Nope.

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