Post # 1
Hi Fellow Bees!
I just joined the site today, and thought it would be a great resource to get lots of other bride’s suggestions and opinions as part of the wedding planning process.
That said, I have reached one of my first snags in the planning process.
My Maid/Matron of Honor recently graduated from a hairstyling program and has voiced to me how she is extremely excited to do my hair for my wedding (Please note she volunteed, but I did not ask her). I love my friend to death, but I am concerned about having someone with so little experience do my hair for an important event such as my wedding. I feel that if it were to turn out badly, not only would I be upset on my wedding day, but our friendship would be hurt as well.
I also have the added difficultly of planning a wedding in Nova Scotia while living in Vancouver. I won’t be in Nova Scotia until a week before the wedding, so doing hair trials months in advance isn’t an option either. I lived in NS for a number of years, so I could get a good recommendation for a stylist from friends who still live there. I thought the advantage of having another stylist do the hair for the bridal party is we could all just relax and have fun together without having the added stress of having my Maid/Matron of Honor trying to finish everyone’s hair.
So I am wondering – how do I break it to my Maid/Matron of Honor that I would rather another stylist in NS do my hair? Or do you think I am being rude to refuse my MOH’s generous offer?
Thanks for your feedback!
Post # 3
It’s totally your call, but since she is your friend I think you could easily have several practice sessions that would make both of you more comfortable. I would consider it unless you truly doubt her skills.
Post # 4
The morning of your wedding will be hectic for you AND your Maid/Matron of Honor. Why don’t you ask her to do your hair for the rehearsal dinner or for something else, but suggest that you and all of your maids go get your hair done together. She’ll have other important duties, she doesn’t need to worry about your hair. And you’ll have someone built in to help with any touchups throughout the day.
Post # 5
as nice as her office is, my concern is that on the day she will be busy enough as it is to not have time to devote to you like you need
maybe tell her you want her to enjoy the day with you as a friend and guest and not as hired help. if she really insists, maybe she can do your hair for the rehearsal dinner instead
Post # 6
I agree with Erin. Have her do your hair for a different event. Tell her that you’d rather she relax and not have to be too stressed.
Post # 7
i like Erin’s idea of having your Maid/Matron of Honor do your hair for another event. if your moh is nearby, maybe you can do some trials together first so you get a sense of whether you’d be comfortable with her doing it the day of.
will there be something you’d rather she help you before the wedding (e.g. confirm set up, etc) instead? that might be a way to propose it to her – that she would be a much bigger help to you doing x, because she’s the only person you would trust to do that.
Post # 8
I think Erin had a great idea to suggest to have your Maid/Matron of Honor do your hair for another event-Rehearsal dinner, shower, etc. Focus on how you’re going to need her help/support on the day of the wedding. Tell her that you’ll want to just relax and spend time with her, instead of making her work on the day of the wedding.
Post # 9
Thank you so much for the replies everyone!
My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in Vancouver, so I think it would be a good idea to do some hair trials with her to get a sense of what looks good. I also like the suggestion of having her do my hair for another event, such as the rehearsal dinner.
I think part of the issue is that she may not understand how busy the day of the wedding will be, as she has not participated in a wedding before. I would much rather enjoy it with her than have her running around, trying to get everyone’s hair done. I am sure she will understand 🙂