(Closed) Should I let my BM choose their style dress? Even if they have bad taste?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

Let the bridesmaids pick out their own. If they pick one they like, they will be confident in it, if you pick out one they don’t like, it will be far more unflattering than an awkward dress.

That said, a little “WOW that looks amazing on you!!!” can help so you both get what you want πŸ˜€

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

ALTERATIONS!!!  keep in mind that MOST dresses can be sized two sizess either way.  (my mom does bridal alterations)  This isn’t always the case with  Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses but for the most part if you pick one dress that is good for all, and have each of them altered so it is made to fit them individually.  I like the variety of dresses too…. i went with knee length black dresses any style… the cost savings was huge too

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that you should either pick a dress for them, pick a range of dresses for them to choose from, or just let them choos they own dress. You cant tell them to only pick styles that you think looks good on their body because thats a bit weird, n will most likely offend them

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Reserve veto powers πŸ™‚ I did that with my girls because one of my BMs is incredibly fashion challenged, LOL! Unfortunately for her, I had to veto THREE dresses before she found one that worked well for the wedding. Thankfully she has a great sense of humour and realizes she’s not always the best shopper πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

You can probably steer them towards styles that flatter their bodies if you make a big deal over them, like bell2be said.  Fawn all over them in flattering dresses.  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@bakerella: I second veto powers.  My girls all wore different dresses which looked SO pretty – but I definitely wanted final say.  I’m glad I did – two girls who were going to stand next to each other picked dresses that swept off to one side, except they swept the opposite direction.  It looked VERY strange!  I also had one girl who was very into a particular dress that would not have fit in with the others.  It’s not alway enough to give them a certain color/length/fabric.  

I’m so glad I did it this way however – and my girls looked beautiful and were all very happy with their dress!  πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Give them a few to choose from and let each girl choose from that. Or pick a dress for each. Don’t say that you’ll veto a dress if it’s not flattering or you’ll really hurt someone’s feelings!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@spaniel: I vetoed based on the dress itself, not how it fit. My Bridesmaid or Best Man wanted one with this crazy bizarre pattern on it when everyone else had solid colours, and the other two were REALLY business appropriate, not something you’d wear to a wedding even as a guest. I would never have vetoed if I thought it wasn’t flattering, or said as much, I likely would have come up with some other excuse. I also told my girls if they wouldn’t wear it in front of their grandmother they couldn’t wear it to the wedding πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

@bakerella: Sorry, my comment was directed at OP’s concern about the dress looking good on their bodies, rather than your veto based on your fashion-challenged Bridesmaid or Best Man. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i am letting my braidsmaids pick out her own dress. They all have different shpes and tastes and MOST IMPORTANT is BUDGET. I want them to buy what they can afford and feel pretty in.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Go to the appointment and see what they like on themselves, you might be suprised at how great they turn out. Have you already told them that they can chose their own dress? If so then just let them wear what they want. If not, maybe you can make a big deal out of your favorites on them and they will end up getting those.

Plus, what someone feels comfortable in and feels like they look good in is hard to judge. you might not like how they look, but wouldn’t you rather they be happy and feel comfortable on that day rather then spend a lot of money on something they hate? in the long run no ones going to be looking at all the photos with your BMs, you will be looking at the photos of you and your husband in 20 years and what some Bridesmaid or Best Man wore won’t matter as much. It will all work out.

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