Post # 1
A little over a year ago I got engaged. It was a beautiful simple proposal just how I dreamed, romantic and private. My other half gave me a beautiful ring. He admitted that it wasn’t the one he wanted to give to me as money was tight we both had problems at work. He said that he didn’t want something like a money to stop him from asking me to marry him. My current ring isn’t a diamond. He said that he wanted to save up and get me the ring he wanted to get me. Now a year on he is a new job that he loves doing and pays a lot more money and he wants to buy me a new engagement ring. I love my ring but he keeps pushing saying that he wants to I don’t know if I should let him or well and truly put my foot down and say no.Here is a picture of my current engagement ring
Post # 3
If you love your ring, can you “distract” him with putting his generosity towards something else? Like “Babe, I love this ring so much and it means a lot to me that it is the ring you proposed with. But, if you really want to buy something, here’s a wedding band I really love.” Or, “I’ve been wanting to splurge on XYZ for the wedding, but it hasn’t been in the budget. Would you buy that for me instead?”
What is it, since it isn’t diamond? CZ? Moissanite? Sapphire?
If it’s CZ, I’d consider letting him replace it since it will cloud up over time and you may not be in a position to replace it at that time. Your ring IS lovely!!! I like it.
Post # 4
You could swap the stone for a real diamond and re-set the current stone into another piece of jewelery? What kind of stone is it? If CZ, I’d replace it since CZ doesn’t last forever.
Post # 5
If you love your ring, put the $ towards a honeymoon or trip you both can enjoy. Men feel like they need to make everything right, even if it already is in your mind. My Fiance constantly asks me if my ring is big enough, good enough, and if I still love it. Just tell him u do…period
Post # 6
@NAvery: Its a cz i think thats why he has his heart set on changing it and i make the mistake of saying that i didnt really like shaped wedding bands and that i most likley will need one with my current engagment ring.
Post # 7
@MrsSoonToBePeters: I think it’s gorgeous!! If you want to replace the center stone, maybe look at Moissanite?
Post # 8
I would let him do it. A CZ won’t stand the test of time and if a guy wants to do something for you, you might end up hurting is pride/feelings if you don’t let him.
Post # 9
I think your e-ring would look better with a straight band than a corved one, personally – so no worries there! I’d maybe just upgrade the stone to something more durable. I’d go with moissy myself!
Post # 10
later on in life, there will always be something else to spend the money on
so if you want a diamond and he wants to buy it, I say let him
Post # 11
We got married super young, and my husband has always viewed my ring as a symbol of his hard work making a great life for us. (I dont get it, Id wear a twisty tie on my finger and call it a day!) And hes upgraded my ring at 1 year, 5 years and 10 years. It makes him happy, and so I go along with it. He knows I dont expect him to upgrade my ring, and that Id even be fine with not upgrading, but that somehow makes him even more set on the idea LOL.
If your Fiance is really set on it, and you can afford it, Id let him. I have my original promise ring and my original teensy diamond ring saved for our daughters one day. Sometimes I still wear them on my right hand.
Post # 12
If you guys can afford it now, then yes. The CZ won’t stand up in the long run.
Post # 13
I think moissanite would be a good compromise. Much cheaper than a diamond, but it will hold up over time.
Post # 14
@MrsSoonToBePeters: If money isn’t an issue, go for the diamond upgrade in a similar setting. CZ won’t last and moissanite won’t look exactly like a diamond. You don’t need to rush it, though… find something you love.
Post # 15
I say go with it. A ring means a lot to your guy and let him get the one that he always wanted to get you. Keep your current ring and wear it as a right hand ring
Post # 16
Swap out the cz for sure, even if you want to keep your setting.