Post # 1
So we have put off picking out the tuxedos for various reasons. Next weekend my FIs three brothers, who are also his groomsmen, will all be in town at the same time, and it would actually be a perfect time to go pick out and have them all get fitted for the tuxedos. Problem is, I am working that whole day, and can’t get away to go with them. Mentally, I know that my Fiance is perfectly capable of taking on this task, and picking out the tuxes himself, and that the sensible thing would be to just let him and his guys go take care of it. My internal controlling bride wants to insist that he wait until I can go with him and make sure he picks out something I like. We are less than 4 months to the wedding so we really do have to do this as soon as possible, but we are both working crazy hours and getting any time off during the day, together, when the tux shop is open, is next to impossible. Should I just back off and let him handle this or should I insist that he wait until we can do this together?
Post # 3
You could just let him go on his own and send you pics via the cell phone, that would let him do it on his own and let the “controlling bride” in you have that satisfaction in knowing what he picked.
Post # 4
My husband went with his best man and I didn’t go, on purpose. I wanted to have the same element of surprise seeing him in his tux as his seeing me in my gown. I didn’t want to even know any details, not the color and not the style. I think it would have put a picture in my head. I had to let the “controling bride” in me go and know that he wants to look good on his special day so he’s not going to choose something that doesn’t make him look handsome. I will say, he did a great job and my eyes locked on him as soon as he caught my eye.
Us brides make our groom wait to see us in our wedding gown until we’re at the end of the aisle, shouldn’t we have that too?
Post # 5
I went with him to pick them out, but he picked what he wanted. THEN I went with him to pick his tux up, and it’s a good thing I did because they had no record of his purchase…I had a total Bridezilla meltdown.
Post # 6
Fiance is going with my best friend’s husband, and while Fiance is more of a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy, my friend’s husband is much more fashion forward…like he’ll wear Hugo Boss just to go shopping. I think between the two of them it will be ok, plus I’d rather see Fiance in the tux the day of.
Post # 7
Well, I went with my husband but I let him pick everything out and it wasn’t what I would have picked but it was okay too. Also we ordered a groomsman’s tux the day before the wedding and got it in time, so like…I feel like you should have more time.
Post # 8
Honestly, I don’t think you need to worry if you have already discussed color, there is not much that could be crazy. I went with Darling Husband to multiple tux shops (rental and purchase) and the fit in the jacket varies by designer but most tux rental places only have a handfull of options and within the options he will need to pick lapel style, number of buttons and solid or pinstripes. Then there is long tie vs. bow and vest vs. suspenders. Darling Husband was super happy to be able to get the tuxes he wanted and I didn’t care as long as they were all black with the same number of buttons. Besides, big rental stores like Men’s Warehouse actually only need like a weeks notice so if he picks something oyu hate you can just go back with him and change it and at least the brothers will have been measured.
Post # 9
@SandyThePoet: My Fiance is pretty set that he wants to pick the tux without me. And like you, I know he would do an excellent job, the control freak in me can’t let it be done! I have kind of compramised by picking three or four from the book our local tux rental place gave us, and he can pick one of them. His thing is that since my dress is a surprise to him, his tux should be a surprise to me. I tried to tell him that it’s not the same, but he is pretty set…
Post # 10
I’m so glad I went with my Darling Husband to pick out his tux. It’s not that I don’t trust his fashion sense, it’s that there are fit details that I think a lot of men don’t notice. He had a few styles of tuxes that he prefered and I was totally fine letting him pick any style. But we were both glad I was there to be a second set of eyes regarding what was actually flattering on him.
Post # 11
My Fiance wont let me be there.. I want to be but hes totally into the whole I can do this with just my guys.
So i took a few steps of my own! I printed out several styles that i like so he knows, and put them in our wedding book.
He and I went to the tux store on 2 occassions ,just me and him to get a feel.
And i also talked to the groomsmen and told them what i DEF dont want!!!!!
Im hoping all works out… but ima go with the flow and let him pick it out- if turns out a horrid tux i just may have a spare suit in my bag 😉
Post # 12
@tksjewelry: My suggestion as well : )
Post # 13
What about sending a female voice along? I took my Future Mother-In-Law when I went with my fiance and his guys.
Post # 14
No! Mine would have came back with a pimp hat and cane!! Trust me I had to tell him no at the place!! Lol!!
Post # 15
Yes give your man freedoom, there are professionals in the stores to guide them. Afterall he’s a man not a boy right, he can dress himself for his own wedding! Just give him a fabric swatch of the BM’s dress to match the colour of the vest and tie. I think its so silly when the bride ‘tags’ along, so unneccasry and it shows ALOT of mistrust!!
Post # 16
My husband went on his own, and then showed me a picture of what he had chosen after. I trusted his judgement – obviously he wants to look good and is able to dress himself. Trust me, I was happy to have one less thing to worry about!