Post # 47
Hey girl 🙂
step 1. stop having conversations the past, whether it’s crushes or exes or that girl he kissed one time when he was drunk but he didn’t know you then. they don’t matter! to quote the great Rafiki…”Asante sana Squash banana, Wiwi nugu Mi mi apana. The past is in the past!” if they mattered, he wouldn’t be engaged to you! 🙂
step 2. always always remember he chose YOU, and no matter what comes up (as long as he’s not giving you reason to believe he’s making other choices behind your back) hold on to that. you’re his!
step 3. take your energy that is going into being upset with this girl, that is going into little fights with your Fiance over it, and put that energy into your relationship! write him notes, do nice things for him, and make him aware of exactly why he picked you; I promise he’ll do the same for you.
Post # 48
Move on, sister! He is doing nothing wrong and you’re picking fights about it because of your own insecurity. That isn’t fair. If you can’t handle hearing about your partner’s former “crushes” then you should not be discussing it! My husband does not like hearing about my exes so I do NOT bring them up, whereas I don’t care about who he dated before me and we talk about them sometimes, see what their up to, etc. You need to know your own comfort level and even if it’s tempting to get every dirty detail about things like that sometimes you need to back off for your own good! Best of luck! 🙂
Post # 49
@mrs_pudding_pop: Trust me, I get it. But it’s time to just let it go. It’s hard, I know.
Post # 50
Thanks everyone, for your honest and helpful replies. I needed some tough love and you guys were not shy about giving it to me, so I am going to go ahead and close this thread. 🙂