Post # 1
I actually found Weddingbee.com prior to buying my dress and read a lot of stories about dress regret and dress decisions. That is why I am even more upset with myself for having rushed a decision and caving under pressure and buying a dress. It’s a beautiful dress, Mikaella 1414, but I feel like I was pressured into it because it “looked good” on me, and it was a discontinued sample, so it was THE ONLY ONE and it was my size. All my bridesmaids liked it as well as my mom, dad and the shop owner who was very persuasive, especially because it was a discontinued model.
Long story short, i bought the dress because I was too afraid not to. Thinking I wouldn’t find another one that fit me this well. Well, for two months now I’ve been agonizing over the fact that I didn’t get what I truly wanted, that i didn’t look around enough, that I got what everybody else wanted instead of taking the time to actually figure out what I wanted. With so many styles and fabrics, I wasn’t clear yet, on my style.
So, I have had major dress regret, even though I know it ‘looks good”. My questions is does anybody end up regretting their dress post wedding??
I’ve spent the wedding dress money, well, my mom did, so I would have to pay for it myself and probably shock everyone if I bought a new dress. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks to all the bees who write in =)
Post # 3
@oh_silly_me: Honestly I was in the same exact spot as you – i bought my dress before i really fell into wedding planning so when i found the bee or started reading blogs i was really upset about the rush decision i made. I could have forked over the money for another dress but i didn’t want to hurt my mom’s feelings since she bought it for me. i struggled with this for months and months leading up to the wedding. I really liked my dress, i mean i did buy it an all haha but i just had this nagging feeling that i didn’t take the time or try on enough dresses. In the end i chose not to go buy another one and whined about it to my Fiance leading up to the wedding but i had a total change of heart that day. I loved my dress, i loved the way i looked and the way i felt and i was happy with the choice i made.
The bottom line is that you have to be happy with your choice and feel good wearing it. If you have the means and want to buy another dress it doesnt hurt to look around. but from what dress regretful bride to another – i really ended up loving my dress.
Mikaella is a beautiful dress! i think you should hold on to her 😉
Post # 4
I had major dress regret and even doubt on the day of my wedding. After the wedding I loved it more then I did on my wedding day. I think it looked pretty good and photographed very well.
Post # 5
Thank you so much for your story. It really did help calm me down. And, the truth is, the dress is really beautiful. I think to my financé, dresses all look the same anyway and he’ll love it on me. I’m very happy to hear you did find happiness wearing your dress on your wedding day!
I’m scared if I don’t look like I’m happy in the dress, it will show on my face all day, ya know, to everyone and in pictures . . .
Did you ever go back and try on other dresses? I’m trying to decide it that will help or hurt.
Thanks again for your input!!
Post # 6
Thanks for replying! Again, so happy to hear you were ultimately happy with your dress! Why do you think that was so? Is the dress not “as important” in the end, as we feel it is now?
Post # 7
I bought the Mikaella 1414 and loved it! It wasn’t what I imagined that I would get, but it was the most beautiful dress for my body. But, I didn’t buy it on the spot… After trying it on the first time, I waited about a month before I bought it. I did go dress shopping at Alfred Angelo after I tried on the Mikaella gown and that was the deciding factor for me. The material just doesn’t compare. I did only go to 3 different places… David’s Bridal, Alfred Angelo and the independently owned shop that carried the Mikaella gown. I wanted to only spend $1000, so for me, the Mikaella gown was an easy decision. I, too, got an off-rack discount and I felt beautiful in my gown. But, had I had a bigger budget, maybe the decision would have been harder. But, just remember this… we spent soooo much money on our wedding (my husband and I paid for everything) and while I don’t think that I would have changed that, I don’t think that every purchase was necessarily worth it… the dress does matter a lot, but you have to set limits… even if you have an unlimited budget. When everything is all said and done, it won’t be absolutely perfect (marrying your husband will, of course), but things will undoubtedly go wrong and you will probably think about all of things that you could have used that money on. My husband and I already have a house, but I still think that hardwood floors would have been nice, new kitchen cabinets and countertops, paying off some bills (rather than accruing more)… anyway, I’m digressing, but you should probably stop looking because if you find something that you like more, you will probably have a hard time selling your dress. If you have an unlimited budget, go for it. If you want, you could always go to David’s Bridal or Alfred Angelo to feel better about your decision, though…. Just a thought… my bf bought a beautiful DB’s gown, so I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone… they just looked awful on me and I thought that the material was cheap. But, we all have different budgets and in many ways, I would have been just as happy in a cheaper gown… it’s all about your marriage and not the wedding!!! Good luck with all the planning and try not to take it so seriously!!
Post # 8
Here are the pics i was telling you about. I can’t seem to send them to you in a private message. Hope these help! (the one with the shoes is to show you the crinoline that was built in)