Post # 1
A month ago I asked for advice on finding a priest to help with the paperwork for our Destination Wedding. We ae getting married in a Catholic Church in my parent’s home town. Thank you all your suggestions! I finally found a priest that is more than happy to help us (thanks to KLP2010’s advice on how to word what I needed).
I noticed many churches had a “processing fee” (or donation) for couples that aren’t getting married at their church but ask for help in preparing marriage documents. This includes their time, cost of fedex etc. However this priest didn’t mention anything.
How do all the Destination Wedding brides approach this matter? I should offer some donations for his time and help right? Should I say something now since he has agreed to help and I just met with him today? Or should I wait till everything is done? Should I just ask how much the postage and stuff costs and pay for that? How much is appropriate?
Post # 3
Normally you do give a donation. Offer to pay for things like FedEx fees as they come up, then give a donation to the priest at the end for his time.
How much of a donation depends on how much time he spends helping you. Whatever donation you were planning to give to the priest, split it between the two (the one doing the planning and the one doing the ceremony) based on how much time each spend.
You can give a donation to the church if you want, but I probably wouldn’t. I’d just the priest a check and if he wants to donate it to the parish, he can.
Post # 4
We’re also doing a Destination Wedding. Unfortunately, both churches have set fees so we’re giving $300 to the church where we’re preparing and $500 to the church where we’re getting married.
If your priest doesn’t mention it think you should definitely give something. But I would wait until you both meet with him to fill out your paperwork. That is when our priest asked for our donation.
Hope this helps. Good luck!
Post # 5
Thank you both for your advice!
@lopezlulu: that’s a good point to wait until everything is done. He might actually have a fixed donation in mind when he knows how much time this process took him.