(Closed) Should I make her a bridesmaid?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Does she deserve to be a bridesmaid?
    Yes, she's been a friend for most of your life, she should be a bridesmaid : (0 votes)
    Yes, you were in her wedding, she should be in yours : (0 votes)
    No, She doesn't sound like a good friend : (15 votes)
    79 %
    Don't even invite her to the wedding! : (4 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If she “might ruin your wedding,” why even invite her?

    It may be better just to hurt her feelings and move on.

    Post # 4
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Why are you worried she might ruin your wedding?

    Post # 6
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    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My Man of Honor is a mutal best friend to us and she would be really hurt if he was in the wedding and she wasn’t

    I think her possibly ruining your wedding overrides her being hurt if your Man of Honor was in it and she wasn’t. Like PP said.. why even invite her if yall have such a bad relationship and shes not even happy for you??

    Post # 7
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    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I voted “don’t even invite her to the wedding” especially if you think she’ll try to ruin your day.  She can do that if she’s in the bridal party or not.

    Post # 8
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    This is a tough one.  If you’ve been friends with her for 13 years and you were in her wedding, you’d think she’d be able to be happy for you.

    You need to decide what is right for you. Maybe you need to talk to her about how she makes you feel. 

    I was being very harsh towards a friend and hurt her feelings, she told he that my joking wasn’t funny to her and I’ve made an effort to be sure to be more aware of the things I say to her.  We’ve been friends for 10 years and I couldn’t imagine her not asking me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding b/c she was worried I might say something mean or hurt her feelings. If your friendship is important enough to her, she’ll listen to what you have to say and make an effort to improve.  Sometimes you have to work at friendships.

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