Post # 1
i have 1 daughter (23) and one son. and my partner has 2 daughters .
i have chosen my daughter, my FIs daughters, and my sons girlfriend to be my bridesmaids. their ages range from 22-25.
I am wondering if i should ask my daughter to be Maid/Matron of Honor, or would it seem like favoritism? she is my only daughter, but i have known my FIs daughters for most of their lives. I know my sons girlfriend wouldnt feel put out by it, but i fear that my FIs daughter might be.
i dont NEED a Maid/Matron of Honor, but thought i could bestow my daughter with the special ranking.
I dont know what to do, its no biggie just to have them all as bridesmaids, then no-one would feel left out……but she IS my daughter after all,… Hmmmmm
Post # 3
I think your fiance’s daughter will understand if you ask your own daughter to be your maid of honor. As close as you are with both girls, it would certainly mean a lot to your own child to be asked to be the maid of honor. It would probably really be special to both you and her to give her that distinction. I know you mentioned that you’re close with both girls and if you are as close as you say you are, I’m sure your fiance’s daughter will certainly understand. You’re right, she is your daughter afterall! Go ask her to be your maid of honor – guilt free! Happy planning 🙂
Post # 4
It depends. Do you consider your FI’s daughters as your own? Do they call you mum? If they do, then you can’t choose one child from the others. If not, if there has always been a distinction between the children then I think it will be fine.
Post # 5
oh no they dont call me mum, and if they had lived with us all this time, all together, then i wouldnt even consider making the distinction, but we do get on well, but purely as a non-mum relationship.
I think you’re right, she would feel special, and i think moreover, it will probably be expected by everyone that i would have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor. i dont want to step on others toes, but i really think they will expect it….(or as we in UK call them, cheif bridesmaid)
maid of honour in Uk is usually reserved for bridesmaids that are married.
Post # 6
@anne B: I that case I definitely think that it is completely fine for you to name your daughter as Maid/Matron of Honor. It would be expected for you to name her as one. Go for it, don’t over think it. 🙂