Should I marry a guy who doesn't even kiss me & have 0 passion with?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you marry someone you had 0 passion with?
    Yep : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Nope : (74 votes)
    33 %
    Wtf why are you even asking that : (143 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1424 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Just curious, why are you waiting until the wedding to have sex? Is it a religious thing, or is he just THAT uninterested?

    Post # 3
    Member
    1013 posts
    Bumble bee

    If you want to be eternally miserable, sure, go for it. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    203 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Chula Vista Golf course

    Is this even really a question? Waiting until marriage for sex is no big deal, no judgies. But no passion? That’s not limited to sex. And he won’t even kiss you? Hell no. You know the answer. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    ramengirl :  Also curious to know why you are waiting to have sex until marriage if he watches porn (and I’m assuming participates in certain activities during) so often that you have become convinced that he has an addiction to it? Have you suggested couples counseling? I mean, why even say yes to a guy that you don’t even know if you really love? 

    Post # 6
    Member
    2487 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I voted “nope” but only because I didn’t see the “wtf why are you even asking that” option quickly enough. Girl, noooooo. Don’t marry a porn addict. Don’t marry a guy who you don’t want to kiss. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    677 posts
    Busy bee

    Was your relationship always like this? If so I’m wondering why you said yes in the first place. Sorry bee but it seems like you already know what to do

    Post # 8
    Member
    431 posts
    Helper bee

    Agree with dionsmom HELL no. This is crazy. He won’t change after you get married. If he isn’t a passionate or affectionate person it will get worse not better. You’re probably right about the porn addiction….he’d rather watch it then cuddle and get frisky with his fiance? Hellllll no. Do you want to spend the rest of your days second to porn and with zero sex/affection? Of course not! Advise you to get out now. Divorce is horrible, expensive and a super long process. It can be really traumatizing. Calling off a wedding is too, I’m sure, but divorce will have lasting consequences for you. Please OP don’t go through with it if you feel zero passion/butterflies/ desire from/with your fiance. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    920 posts
    Busy bee

    I know there are people who say otherwise, but I believe passion and attraction are important parts of a healthy relationship. As a PP said, you should have butterflies. You should have a guy who looks at you and treats you like you’re best thing on Earth, and you should feel the same about him. He should make you feel wanted and beautiful. Life is too short to settle for less than that.

    Post # 12
    Member
    9604 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I garauntee if you marry him you will be divorced with in 5 years.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1424 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Wow, does he not realize how hypocritical it is for him to be so concerned with your “purity” but he is alright with watching filth and pleasing himself? Gross. I’d dump him in a heartbeat. You don’t need someone who you don’t have any passion with. YOU will be miserable. It is so much easier to end it now.

    Post # 15
    Member
    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I personally wouldn’t enter a passionless marriage.  Romance and passion are important to me.  If they’re important to you then you shouldn’t go through with it. That sounds lonelier than actually being alone. I’d much rather be single than be with someone who doesn’t make me feel loved. 

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