Post # 61
How long have you been with him and has the entire relationship been stone cold? I have a friend who through arrange marriage thought she found the man of her dreams on paper. After being married to him, she realized there was 0 passion and attraction between them. Long story short it took her 3 years to finally admit that she couldn’t live like this for the rest of her life. They got divorced and she spent the next couple of years dealing with the psychological damage of feeling unattractive.
Please do not marry him. There are so many amazing people out there. Find one who you feel true attraction and passion for. Right now it sounds like you have resentment towards him because he would rather watch porn than spend time with you.
Post # 62
This is tough because relationships go through ebbs and flows and you can’t expect the butterflies every day. The passion rises and falls sometimes and that’s ok. My Fiance and I have been in a little bit of a drought bc I have been going through a depression and a place wherein I am not confident in my body but we are both very sexual people. It sucked for a while, but the other day he took me in his hands and kissed me more passionately than we ever have. It turned both of us on so much. So it was reassuring to know it still exists, just circumstance has clouded it. It is still there but somtimes it is hidden under the rubble. You have to work at it. Have an honest convo with your Fiance about it. Sometimes opening up can really mean….opening up.
Post # 63
If you have a daughter one day and she comes home crying because a boy treated her terribly – what are you going to say to her, being in a relationship with someone like you are now and not knowing what it is to be treated well?
I hope you have ended this relationship already.
Post # 64
One of the most troubling parts of this for me is that it sounds like it’s his decision to wait and you havent agreed on it as a couple. I’m waiting, but my fiance and I made that decision together. You sound like you’d rather not, but are just doing it because he wants to. You should be with someone who has similar beliefs to you.