Post # 1
My husband and I live in Australia. My husband is originally from Ukraine and his family is living there. He has a younger sister whom is single.
Recently my parents friends came across a neighbour living close to them who was a Ukrainian man who grew up here. His grandmother had pass on and he inherited the house into which he moved in. My parents friends asked him if he was single and he said that he recently broke up with his Australian girlfriend and was looking for a partner. They asked him if he minded dating a girl from overseas in Ukraine and he says he didn’t mind.
My parents asked me to matchmake my sister in law to this guy. I see a good opportunity on one hand as he has good conditions. However on the other hand, my sister in law is a bit of a party girl type and I’m not sure if this guy is looking for a more traditional girl.
My sister in law is 30 and has not really worked a standard job all her adult life. Her mother had gotten her a job in Ukraine and instead she quit and went to work as a ‘model’ in china. This job was really a hostess job where she entertained clients in bars.
When she came for our wedding, she stayed for a 1 month at our apartment and woke up at 10-11am daily and went out at night at times to meet different guys or nightclubbing.
I am concerned by her past behaviour and due to this I am hesitant to matchmake her with this guy in case it doesnt go well and leads to both parties upset. I also am not sure what issues will come up if she dates this guy as long distance as it could cause me and my husband more problems if she begs to come to Australia and live with us so that she could see this guy. We live in a small 2 bedroom apartment.
Should I give her a chance and arrange this?
Post # 3
missviolet92 : I think she likes Australia, so she may see the guy as an opportunity to get a visa.
Post # 4
Aren’t you the poster who complained endlessly about this SIL in a couple of judgement fuelled posts under a different user name?
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Nope. Stay away from this whole situation. It sounds like a lot of extra entanglement that you don’t need. I also remember your previous posts and I think the less you’re involved in her personal life, the better for everyone.
Post # 6
I remember this Ukrainian SIL. No, don’t matchmake her with your parents’ neighbour! He deserves someone better…
Post # 7
j_jaye : that’s exactly what I thought!
OP leave your sister in laws alone. Considering how judgey you are about their lives I can almost certainly guarantee you are not thinking about *her* when you set her up and having her move to Australia will not benefit either of you.
Plus the fact that you want to set her up with someone you barely know just because they are from the same country of origin is weird and a bit tacky.
Post # 8
I remember a very similar story here about someone compliaining about the sister in-law visiting. And she was lazy, going out a lot and meeting random guys. Sounds like you. If you are even questioning this, you know the answer already if you should get involved or not.
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
I thought this all sounded very familiar too…
No, don’t set her unless she has specifically asked you to help, this all sounds a bit weird.
Post # 10
Ok surely he can find someone in Australia
Post # 11
Didn’t you rag on this woman endlessly?
No, don’t “match make” someone for visa status ffs.
Post # 12
Why the hell would you even consider saddling some guy with this chick?
The VERY OBVIOUS answer is NO, you don’t introduce your lazy triffling ass bum of a SIL to anyone as a possible partner.
Post # 13
One of the things my parents said was that maybe she is like this cause she hasnt got a good guy to give her good influence. Sometimes when a woman meets a good guy, it might change her perspective and attitude on things.
Post # 14
The other thing is as the guy has a good conditions, e.g. has a house etc, so it could be advantageous to her, my husband’s family and myself if it does work out and they get married. If the guy is generous, she might not have to work and just settle down and have children or something.
Post # 15
kellymo123 : “One of the things my parents said was that maybe she is like this cause she hasnt got a good guy to give her good influence.”
Your parents should find a hobby; one that preferably does not include meddling in other’s people’s lives.
“The other thing is as the guy has a good conditions, e.g. has a house etc, so it could be advantageous to her, my husband’s family and myself …”