Post # 3
It’s none of his business what you do, simple.
Post # 4
Nope, he doesn’t need to know
Post # 5
No way! Especially if you have no contact at all. If he is indeed still broken up over it, it will seem like you are being malicious. He’ll find out eventually, but it shouldn’t be from you.
Post # 6
I don’t think you need to, but you could. If he sees your name on banking related things, he’ll obviously notice the change of your name; he may or may not bring it up then anyway.
Post # 7
As an Encore Bride myself (and someone who was also Divorced) I know that there is actually a Rule of Etiquette for this situation… and I will find it for you (and copy it here)
But for now… I am marking this topic to come back to it … as I am on my way out the door.
Post # 8
No way. What would be the point?
Post # 9
You don’t have to. But it may be easier for him to hear it from you, rather than hearing it from someone else. If that doesn’t matter to you, then you really don’t have to.
I have a friend who found out via a mutual friend about her ex’s new marriage. Though she was with someone and very happy, it hurt her that he didn’t tell her himself. I did tell my ex when I got engaged so he wouldn’t hear it from someone else.
Post # 10
@This Time Round: I looked for standard practice and I only saw suggestions that pertained to couples with children together. And that was more about telling your ex first before he heard it through the child-vine and how to help the kids cope. Not relevant to me.
I’m definitely leaning towards “No way”.
Post # 11
I may be the odd one out here, but I think it’s the decent thing to do. Especially if your name is changing, he’ll probably figure it out. You were with this guy for 14 years, you should respect him enough to tell him you’re getting remarried.
Post # 12
Nah. What’s the point? It sounds like it could do more harm than good at this point.
Post # 13
why would you want to?
it would just look like you are rubbing it in his face. it sounds like you have completely moved on so why involve him in your life again, even for just a 2 minute conversation?
Post # 14
I see no reason to inform him.
Post # 15
@AlwaysSunny: This was my original reasoning: it seemed like the decent thing to do.
Oh, and I wouldn’t call him. It would be in an email if I did.
Post # 16
I don’t see any reason why that would be necessary.