(Closed) Should I notify my ex-husband of my new marriage?

posted 6 years ago in Encore
  • poll: Should I notify my ex-husband of my new marriage?
    yes : (32 votes)
    12 %
    no : (243 votes)
    88 %
  • Post # 3
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It’s none of his business what you do, simple.

    Post # 4
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Nope, he doesn’t need to know

    Post # 5
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No way! Especially if you have no contact at all. If he is indeed still broken up over it, it will seem like you are being malicious. He’ll find out eventually, but it shouldn’t be from you.


    Post # 6
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I don’t think you need to,  but you could. If he sees your name on banking related things, he’ll obviously notice the change of your name; he may or may not bring it up then anyway.

    Post # 7
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    As an Encore Bride myself (and someone who was also Divorced) I know that there is actually a Rule of Etiquette for this situation… and I will find it for you (and copy it here)

    But for now… I am marking this topic to come back to it … as I am on my way out the door.


    Post # 8
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    No way. What would be the point?

    Post # 9
    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    You don’t have to. But it may be easier for him to hear it from you, rather than hearing it from someone else. If that doesn’t matter to you, then you really don’t have to.

    I have a friend who found out via a mutual friend about her ex’s new marriage. Though she was with someone and very happy, it hurt her that he didn’t tell her himself. I did tell my ex when I got engaged so he wouldn’t hear it from someone else.

    Post # 11
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I may be the odd one out here, but I think it’s the decent thing to do. Especially if your name is changing, he’ll probably figure it out. You were with this guy for 14 years, you should respect him enough to tell him you’re getting remarried. 

    Post # 12
    7606 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Nah.  What’s the point?  It sounds like it could do more harm than good at this point.

    Post # 13
    11271 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    why would you want to? 

    it would just look like you are rubbing it in his face.  it sounds like you have completely moved on so why involve him in your life again, even for just a 2 minute conversation?

    Post # 14
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I see no reason to inform him.

    Post # 16
    1430 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t see any reason why that would be necessary.

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