Post # 31
Just be like:
“You won’t BELIEVE what I found out laying in the parking lot today. A 2.5 ct. diamond! Wow! This is so lucky for us, we should put it in my ring!”
Ok, maybe not. Just ask him, and point out that you bought it yourself, so you don’t find it sentimentally attached to your ex. A diamond is a diamond.
But if you end up not using it, I’ll take it off your hands. Out of the goodness of my heart 🙂
Post # 32
I am sentimental and don’t think I could reuse an e-ring diamond in another relationship, but that’s me and not necessarily applicable for you. BUT it would REALLY bother me if I were offering to pay off my fiancé’s mortgage and he didn’t want to spend money on an e-ring for me if his financial situation would permit.
If your diamond is GIA certified, try reaching out to Yekutiel at ID Jewelry in NYC. He has some gorgeous stones and excellent trade-in policies. I suspect they favor those who bought from him, but it can’t hurt to try.
Post # 33
I think it’s fine if you and your FH are comfortable with it. My FH and I used my rings from my past marriage as a trade in so that we had a good chunk of money towards my new rings.
Post # 34
I think your suggestion of using your loose diamond is a practical one and you both sound like practicality is a priority for you.
I also think that asking for the setting you want (and have been dreaming of) would be a great way to help your partner get points- he really wants to pick your ring, you already know what you’d like, he will bring much joy to you (and appreciation to himself) by picking the ring you want.
If he has a certain ring in mind that he really wanted to select for you, you can just remind that there are zero restrictions on the amount of jewelry he can get you!
Post # 35
I was going to say “no way” to the offering because I think it would make me uncomfortable to have something that was from a previous relationship as my engagement ring, but like a couple of bees have said.. The specs my god! And the fact that you bought it yourself – it seems almost too good to waste!
If you genuinely feel like it wouldn’t bother you I would offer it up. It depends how you think he will react. I can’t imagine my SO accepting it and I think he would never see the practicalities of it – but if yours is more logical it might be the way to go.
Also, if you want to have input on the ring I think you should. He can always let you have your say and ultimately make the choice. If it’s going to be forever, you want to be 100% happy with it!