Post # 17
My brother is one of my FI’s groomsmen and he will be finishing up school about a month before the wedding. Since he is part of a sports program and will be student teaching in the spring, he does not have his own money right now. My parents are covering his tux, just like they did most of his other expenses. I am going to bet if your Future Sister-In-Law needs the help, your FPILs will help her with it. I would not ask FPIL on her behalf, as that is a can of wroms that you don’t need to be involved with.
Post # 18
I would have asked her indirectly, during a meeting with all the other bm around I would show them a pic of the dress, informed them about the price and ask them if they was comfortable with it. That way she would know that it is expected from everyone without being single out.
If she can’t afford it she would ask her parents, and if your Future Mother-In-Law ask you why you can’t pay for the dress since they are helping you out with the wedding you just say that “of course you will pay for her dress, it was just a general discussion if all other bm could afford it”
That way you also have a excit strategy should there be any drama 😉
I understand that there are usually other cost that comes from being a bm, bachelorette party etc and that the bm’s usually split those costs, will she be able to afford those things?
Post # 19
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
Maybe this is a bad approach, but I would just say something in passing about working to find an affordable dress so the bridesmaids don’t have to shell out a ton of money. That way if she hasn’t been thinking about paying for it, she will start. Then, when it’s actually close to time to ordering it I would ask her about it specifically.
Post # 20
Yes I’ve already put down the deposit for hair and make up.
Post # 21
My maid of honor’s ( I have two) are not asking her to contribute to the bridal shower as they know she cannot afford it, but she will be attending. She will not be attending the bachlorette party because she isn’t 21. We are going to Miami and it would be pretty pointless for her to go if she’s under age. She is well aware of this and really couldn’t afford it anyways. The only actual costs she has as a bridesmaid is her dress. We are getting married in our home town btw.
Post # 22
just tell her about it. When you are a bridesmaid it’s your responsibility to pay for the dress.